The night my husband and I found out, we went to talk to her mother and her step-father. I was told his gf was 15 almost 16 by her and my son then I find out she is just 14. I also found out this little girl has been dating since she was 12. My 17 yr old is nothing like any other boys his age. He goes to church, very active in the youth. Now, I am not saying he is a angel but, this little girl was his first and I knew no matter how much fussing or what, the fact still remained she was pregnant. Her mother, was laughing and cutting up with her daughter while my husband and I were over talking to them about this situation. Which, I felt was NO Laughing matter at all. Her parents were excited about the whole thing. Her mother and Step-Father have no biological children together so, it seemed to me this baby was going to be more so her mother's and step-dads baby. Since that night, my son who is supposed to be the father, is not allowed to call their house, go over there. Makes me wonder?
2006-11-02 05:15:09 · 26 answers · asked by bama_blueyes2002 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, I'd have a paternity test done. And unfortunately, just because someone goes to church doesn't mean they are a saint.
2006-11-02 05:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Xander 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm definite you'll! I feel it's only exclusive. Sorry that the others had been no support in any respect. They simply replied for the two facets. If they've no well data why hassle answering? Anywayz, again on your query. I am definite you'll father the little one. But you can't depend on mother and father typically. Because that is now your accountability. Maybe get a task after university. And at the same time your at university placed the little one within the daycare. Maybe you must wait until the summer season earlier than you begin to be a dad. So the little one is like 3 months historic and it can be equipped to be installed a nursery.
2016-09-01 06:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your son believe the baby is his? Your first move should be to establish paternity.
If he is the father you need to put child support and visitiation in place.
If they want him to stay away, all the better for your son. At least the baby is wanted. Make sure your sons rights regarding the baby are clear and then have little to no conversation with these strange people. Apparently they can take it from here. Which is very, very good for your son.
Have conversation with your son about making right decisions. The decision to have unprotected sex just had lifelong consequences for him and his and her entire families. He needs to start making responsible decisions now, as he has a financial responsiblilty he is going to have to uphold.
Plan to help him through the visitations when the baby is an infant if it is his child. He's not going to be able to deal with infancy independently. Maybe for short periods of time. Teach him.
By no means am I telling you to abandon the child. He needs to assert his rights to his child and be there as the best father he can be. As long as paternity has been established.
2006-11-04 01:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned about the parents reaction.
I would insist on a DNA test ASAP. How these parents did not know their 14 year old was having sex is beyond me.
As for them not allowing him to call the girl now, it is a little to late to try and show parental concern. If he is indeed the father he has rights to the baby. They cannot prevent him from being a part of the child's life. They legal can't. Once paternity is established he has all the rights she does.
I would get in touch with an attorney ASAP. There is something fishy going on.
Good Luck.
2006-11-02 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your son denies being the father, I would wait until the baby is born, then ask for a DNA test. If your son is the father, he will be required to pay child support until the child is 18. That may be why the mother's parents seem to be so happy about the situation.
2006-11-02 05:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It would make me wonder also. Have you tried to talk to the mom and step dad with your kids not around? I would. The girl is 14 years old. Her parents are going to be calling the shots in this case, I would imagine. I would also consult an attorney to research the legalities of this issue. You don't want them coming back on your son years later wanting child support if they kept him out of the baby's life.
Another thing...and I hate to say this, but is everyone SURE that this child belongs to your son? After all, if this girl has been dating since she was 12, she's no stranger to the intimacies of a relationship. It would be a shame for your son to be caught in paternity proceedings if he is not the father.
Just my 2 cents worth...good luck and God Bless!!
2006-11-02 05:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by metalmom71 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a situation that REQUIRES a paternity test. Wait until that is done and then go from there, get visitation and be an active part in the child's life (the father of the child that is) They can keep her from him, but when the baby is born and if it is proven to be his, they cannot prevent him from seeing his child. So if he has to bide his time until the birth, then do so and the get involved. I would have the courts involved before the birth though (setting up and paternity test, documenting him trying to contact her and have a part in her life, ect.) Let the courts know that you and your son are wanting to be a part of this child's life.
2006-11-02 05:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Request a paternity test through the courts to establish paternity. This is the right of your son. The young lady has already proven herself to be a liar, so she's probably not the most safe individual out there. Your son deserves to know for sure, and has legal rights and obligations in the event that he's the father. Also, please have him tested for STDs, for the above mentioned reasons...
I also agree with Katie.. this story gives me the creeps.
2006-11-02 05:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well I would just remember you are dealing with minors. People make many mistakes especially when they are just kids. I think that you should talk to your son more and see what he knows or thinks of the whole situation. Give this more time to develop. It's complicated, but if you know what you and your husband believe is the right things to do, then you can act on those things when and if they happen. Good luck.
2006-11-02 05:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd advise your son to insure he is the father via DNA testing etc. when the baby is born, a young adult of your sons age should not be with a partner under 16 but it's very common in the south vs the north.
2006-11-02 05:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer--NOW.
If she is 14 she is under the age of consent to have sex.
If he is 17 then he is more than two years older than she is---- which means he could be charged with rape in the second degree, a class B felony.
Here is the law I found online and the address of where I found it
http://alisdb.legislature.state.al.us/acas/CodeOfAlabama/1975/coatoc.htm
EXCERPT BEGINS HERE
Section 13A-6-62
Rape in the second degree.
(a) A person commits the crime of rape in the second degree if:
(1) Being 16 years old or older, he or she engages in sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex less than 16 and more than 12 years old; provided, however, the actor is at least two years older than the member of the opposite sex.
(2) He or she engages in sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex who is incapable of consent by reason of being mentally defective.
(b) Rape in the second degree is a Class B felony.
(Acts 1977, No. 607, p. 812, §2311; Acts 1979, No. 79-471, p. 862, §1; Acts 1987, No. 87-607, p. 1056, §2; Act 2000-726, p. 1557, §1.)
EXCERPT ENDS
You must take steps now to protect your son's future and ascertain what is truly going on without endangering him.
Good luck...
2006-11-02 06:34:13 · answer #11 · answered by bookmom 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋