Well long story but to make it short..She is a huge drama queen..And i asked her a few months ago (my fiance asked my brother)and she said "Thats going to be texpensive " She said to my brother "they are going to get married before us" wah wah wah..
Well since then everytime we go out she causes a big scene wirth my brother and everything is always about her well last saturday --I had a halloween /my birthday party (very big) well planned out
And She made a big huge scene screaming outside almost got us kicked out of the hall
Threw a drink at my brother...
Asked me why i invited a bunch of girls (she is very jealous)
And basically ruined my party ..Everyone had to leave early
And she made a big scene and made it all about her...
I told her off and she called the next day and apoligized
But everything is ALWAYS about her and she always ruins a nice time out and im afraid she will do this on my wedding day (in fact i am almost certain)What should i DO? I have tryed to be nic
2006-11-02 04:58:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Also if i tell her i dont want her in it she will still be there and if my brother is dancing with a bridemaid( traditional) she will also throw a huge fit and make a scene --Im kind of stuck here
2006-11-02 04:59:31 · update #1
I just dont want her to ruin my wedding day and i know she will try or just do it on accident she always fights and makes drama! Its so bad im thinking about not having a wedding and just getting married at the courthouse because i know she is jealous and will for sure ruin it for me :(
2006-11-02 05:01:10 · update #2
This is YOUR wedding. It's your special day. If you are not comfortable of her being a bridesmaid, just be honest with her. You have the right to chose who you want as your bridesmaids. If she gets a fit about your bro dancing with a bridesmaid, she can be escorted out of the reception and she can rage and cool off outside on her own.
It's so sad that she's so insecure.
But don't let her "attention" get to you or affect your wedding plans. Do what you need to do to have an awesome wedding!
2006-11-02 05:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by JenGen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would definitely tell her you don't want her in it and I would tell her exactly why. I know it will cause a big stink and probably upset your brother too but those are all things you need to think about before you decide what you are going to do. If you do decide to let her be in your wedding I think you and your fiance and your brother and his fiance need to sit down and discuss the proper behavior for your wedding day as I'm sure you wouldn't act like that on their wedding day. Explain to them both that if she even begins to cause a scene about anything that she will be escorted from the wedding/reception and asked not to return. The way you can keep her out of the reception if you have to is have some good friends take turns standing watch at the exits.
This is your special day and the is absolutely no excuse for anyone to ruin it by behaving like a two year old.
Good Luck and Congrats!
2006-11-02 05:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her...NOW. This is your day, not hers she needs to wake up and realize that! I say excluded her from your wedding and get an restraing order so she can even come and show her ***!! If she acting like a baby now, then she's defintly gonna play that role at your wedding, so it's best to nip it in the bud while you still can and tell you brother to find another bride to be. Cause If he doesn't ya'll are going to have to deal with this for the rest your lives...Until you kill her and I don't want you to go that far...lol
2006-11-02 05:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by PrincessB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding...if that were my soon to be sister in law, I would tell her, not ask her, that she was no longer welcomed in my wedding party. I planned a wedding for a friend a while ago and her brother's wife was supposed to be in her bridal party...turns out the wife went and told off her husband's (my friend's) mother...so she told her that she was no longer welcoed in the wedding party. If she causes a scene, then so be it...but she doesn't deserve something that she didn't earn...like standing with you and your finace at the altar.
2006-11-02 10:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your brother first. He knows her and what she's like, is it going to be a problem for him? It is your wedding day, you deserve to have it as you want, you may have to go one step further if she can't promise you some good behavior, and uninvite her from the wedding period. I know you don't want to hurt your brother, but as i said talk to him first, get his take on it, and enjoy YOUR wedding, don't let her wreck it or cause you to change it. One final consideration, if you do let things go as planned, just ignore her and her drama, yes it is your wedding, but she's the one who will look like a moron if she has a hissy fit , not you. Let her call some crappy attention to herself if she really needs to, she'll get the scowls from the other guest, and it will reflect badly on her not you.
2006-11-02 05:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her behavior is awful. Yes-uninvite her to be a bridesmaid
and tell her CALMLY why. Maybe your brother will break off his engagement (also with good reason!) before.
Remember-if she does try ANYTHING on your wedding day to IGNORE it & go right on. She seems to crave attention. Don't give her any.
2006-11-02 05:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to reverse the situation and get it so she doesnt want to be a part of your wedding that way it is all her fault, she isnt in the wedding and you come out on top?
2006-11-02 05:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by jnhgpor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately let her know. Your day shouldn't be turned into someone else's day so she would be uninvited if it was my choice. just be nice about it and explain to your brother why!
2006-11-02 06:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sariyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only tell her that if you want to ruin your relationship with your brother.
2006-11-02 06:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋