and does it in private
2006-11-02 04:50:49 · 6 answers · asked by rom s 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
well that hasn't happened to me... but my advice to you is to be happy with yourself... and honestly it sounds like you husband is a little insensitive. He should be your best friend... if anything he should be the only person you are NEVER embarrassed to do anythign arround. A husband and wife is a team... they should be the other half to yourself, and you should always be comfortable with yourself (and the other half of yourself.) If you feel you fat, then maybe you should look into losing wieght... try eating small meals more freguently throughout the day and exercise.
Most importantly you should talk to your husband... become best friends....
good luck sweetheart... and remember short, tall, skinny, fat, blonde, burnette, redhead, whatever you are BEAUTIFUL for who you are.
2006-11-02 04:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This hasn't happened with my husband (who encourages me to eat in order to appease any emotional instability), but my father did this to me whenever my weight approached 150 lbs. (5'6" girl-circa age 20 at the time). I used to be upset by it, but then reflected that this was the most hypocritical of criticisms, as he was at least 80 lbs. overweight himself. I just think he had someone in his mind that he wanted as a daughter and it wasn't me. (He also told me I was anorexic and he was worried when I weighed 105 lbs. at another time in life). He just couldn't be satisfied in that area, so I stopped worrying about it after awhile. (I do admit it was easier to stop worrying about once I moved out of the house.).
In answer to your question about private eating, I never do it now, but I used to when living at home. However, eating was like a competition there--I had to beat my father to the food or I didn't get it! Maybe he was just trying to get me away from his stash of ice cream, who knows? There's always a reason or two that someone criticizes another; often, in cases like this, it has to do with insecurity.
2006-11-02 13:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is you, look at counseling for both of you. That behavior is emotional and verbal abuse and will potentially harm both you and the marriage.
2006-11-02 12:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by KeltWitch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not me but you should tell your husband thats a mean thing to say to the women you are committed to for life
2006-11-02 12:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by bumblebee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have for many years and was not fat,hes telling you yhat in hopes than you wont gain weight, use a smaller size plate,so your portions are smaller it will help both of you
2006-11-02 12:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by melody c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is BS.. You should make him apologize!!!! He likes you just fine when your having sex, Right???
2006-11-02 12:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by scooterpie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋