why do men lie about being a relationship instead of telling the truth , If you are not happy then get out of the relationship , Not to be so harsh but this guy i met feel in love told me a story about how he was so unhappy, and how she was not the right kind of girl for him , So i listened and continued to deal with him feel in love with him and his family !! and after that a year goes by he is still with the girl living with her , She knows about me and she does not want to leave him but intead deals with him having me around and loving me and everything , So i say this to say is he really in love me or is the othier girl an idiot!! or are we both just stupid i mean for real I love him and he does everything for me and I am just in a mess I guess!! Oh yeah dont be so hard with the advice please
2006-11-02 04:38:39 · 11 answers · asked by Tabby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*SLAP* he doesnt love you!!!!!
2006-11-02 04:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my dear, let me sum tis up as best I can. You and the other woman are fools for staying with this guy. I ask you? just what is it you "love" about him. He's already shown you that he will not commit to you...or her. He has misled you in the belief he was going to leave her, yet I cannot say I blame him. If i were in the same situation and was able to have sex and whatever else comes with the relationship with you and the relationship with her...I'd want my cake and be able to eat it too.
He's no dummy. He has the best of both worlds. Two women to have around for entertainment.
Yet...you and this other woman allow this? My question is why?
2006-11-02 04:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's got the best of both worlds! He has a girlfriend and you as a mistress...he doesn't lose...if you break up with him he still has his girlfriend and if she breaks up with him he still has you! Why would you let some guy treat you with such disrespect? He doesn't care about your feelings or he wouldn't still be with the girlfriend. Why would you allow someone to treat you like this...girl this guy should be treating you like you are the most important person in his life instead you get the girlfriends left overs...sorry hon but there is no way I would ever allow someone to treat me that way! You need to find you a real man...someone that is mature, respectful, caring and will make you the center of his world where you should be! Get rid of him...find yourself a real man that has his crap together!
2006-11-02 05:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by southernyankeeangel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey! this "boy" is incapable of loving anyone but himself, first he lies to you and you keep seeing him.....he takes you to meet his family!!!??? while living with someone else??? You know about her, she knows about you, and you both continue to love him????? Honey; despite the rumors; there are a lot of men out there. you are too good to share this little boy. Having sex is not loving, sometimes it is used to control, which I would say your boy is doing a good job of. One can easily become caught up in this kind of mess. Are you sure it is just the two of you ladies? could there be other parties? just be cautious. This guy leads the two of you women on, and has gotten away with, you both know what he has done and won' end the "relationship", were it me I would start running and never look back, you deserve so much more, find someone who values you as much as you would value them, get someone worthy of real love.
2006-11-02 06:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by kaviar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of man is called a player and you are his toy.
Your emotions are being toyed with so that he can 'have his cake and eat it too'.
You'll be a mess as long as you permit him to use you thusly.
Have some respect for yourself and establish boundaries and a set of criteria for this fellow.
His other woman is no better off than you are. Both of you could use an infusion of righteous indignation.
I don't know many women who would tolerate such antics.
2006-11-02 04:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty simple, really. The guy you love is with another girl, who had him before you. Since he is still with her, that is a clear indication that he does not want you. He is using you--basically having his cake and eating it to. I would cut off all contact with him. If he truly cares about you, he will leave his other girl and be with you. Of course, I would not trust a guy like him who lives with a girl and tells another he loves her. What makes you think he won't do the same thing to you?
2006-11-02 04:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard situation and the sad thing is, you can't change his mind. I would try to look for someone else and sees how he reacts, he is doing it to you. If you and him get into a relationship, would he do the same thing to you? The most important thing is for you to be happy, still be friends with him and his family but start to detach yourself, find someone you deserve and who wants to be with you and treat you right
2006-11-02 04:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpeaberry42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tabby hun you got a player on your hands he has his cake and eats it too he has no respect for you or he wouldnt do that hes using you if he loved you hed leave her plain hard cold fact is hes a two timimg jerk you deserve so much better rember this hes living with her sharing his bed and every day life weres that leave you on holidays tabby leave him theres nicer guys out there
2006-11-02 04:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sh*t if you dont want to give him up and neither do she..then why dont all of you get together and have an orgie..and live happily ever after..thats all..
there are alot of other guys out there..but if you are happy with him then be with him
2006-11-02 04:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what do you want from the relationship --- long and short term and do you believe he will be able to satisfy those needs???
if he cant then you need to move on
2006-11-02 04:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes for guys it is not about love.
2006-11-02 04:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by butnozzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋