This is now the second weekend in a row that my boyfriend has double booked his time and canceled time with me. We don't get to see each other often because he is in school full time and works part time. Also I work and have activities planned, so we schedule time together... only one day and one night a week. This weekend we had planned a hike and dinner, then at night we were going to shoot pool. Last night he told me that he got a ticket to the University football game and probably wouldn't be able to see me this weekend since he has so much work to do as well. What message should I take from this? Is he not being straightforward? This is pretty unusual behavior for him. Let me know what you think.
2006-11-02 04:34:46 · 13 answers · asked by mightymouse9791 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I would not have accepted a ticket to the game unless I could get a ticket for my gf as well. Even then, I would ask her if she wants to change the weekend plans. Your bf just doesn't care how his actions impact you because he knows you will just sit around and wait for him.
He is young and behaves immaturely. Clearly you are not his highest priority, and may never be. Don't expect him to change for you.
If it is usual for him then either accept this fact about him or go find someone who will spend more time with you.
2006-11-02 04:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him miss you too, get yourself a ticket to go somewhere you want to go and dump him for a week or two or three. If you get clingy or whiny he won't like it...
... but if you get noticeably distant while enjoying yourself at the same time and act aloof he'll act like a man and come chasing after you.
But hey...do you really want a man who is willing to make you a football widow even before your married.
2006-11-02 04:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Share 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think instead of figuring out why he's avoiding you, you should ask the DEEPER questions, like is his behavior hurting you or is it acceptable to you? Put yourself first with love and then take back and look at things with a fresh perspective. He's not living up to YOUR standard and expectation. Time to spend energy elsewhere, either for a break or for good. THAT question is up to you and him, but that is my opinion. Keep yourself the shining star, not him at this point.
2006-11-02 04:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, Heck. It seems he has limited free time and has chosen how he most want to use it. He wants to spend time with his buddies from school. Two times in a row does not bode well for the future. You may want to schedule more time with your friends and family and quit counting on time with him. If he misses you, he will quickly get back on schedule. Otherwise, well .... start feeling free to meet and date other interesting men.
2006-11-02 04:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sell off him. that's barely an hour away. If he somewhat cares, he would not cancel except for something somewhat substantial. as quickly as is effective, yet consistently is a habit. Are you specific he would not have a gf/spouse?
2016-12-28 10:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by ludwig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting question. I wouldn't take much from this. It's probably just that he has too much on his plate. Women are the ones who try to drop hints to guys by cancelling on them.
2006-11-02 04:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The message is Ive found intrest in someone else and im too much of a wimp of a man and admit it to you. Im so sorry he is doing this to you.
2006-11-02 04:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him chickidy. With as little time as you see him already, he should jumping at the opportunity to see when he can. You two should be seeing eachother more than once a week anyway. your better off without him. say bye bye. good luck.
2006-11-02 04:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he should have bought you a ticket for the game too. Well i think you shoud ask him whats going on
2006-11-02 04:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, he just wants to go catch a game... maybe call/text him after the game is over and see how he's doing
2006-11-02 04:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by swingorstrikeout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋