hi im 19 and im very shy and my boy friend keeps tellin me 2 talk 2 his family but i dont no what 2 say?

Question

im 19 from manchester and my boy friend is 28 can u help plz

Answer 1

Ouch!!! That is a big gap in age..... I don't blame you for being shy, but since you are with such an older guy your probably do need to talk to his parents so they know he's not robbing the cradel. You should try to act mature and speak to them like an adult. But personally I think the age difference is HUGE and should have him talk to your parents and see how shy he is when he has to tell your dad how old he is and what he is doing dating your parents 19 year old daughter. I am sure he will be pretty shy too!

Answer 2

Ooooh...I know just what you mean!! I'm 47 now, but I can sooo remember that feeling! I was like you painfully shy and I hated it over his parents house especially when he'd go to the loo or go out to the garden with his dad and leave me there!!!

I'm cringing now just thinking about it!

Anyway I'm more confident now so I think what you need to do when you go to his parents house is an activity that doesn't require the focus to be on YOU.

Maybe you could take some photos over and that would provide some conversation or maybe your boyfriend could suggest playing a board game with them...that's quite a nice ice breaker.

To take the focus off you even more, think of a few questions you can ask them BEFORE you go. It's really important that these questions should be very open ended.....in other words questions that they can't just answer yes or no. For example something like tell me about.....'

Ask them about past jobs they've had, best and worst and tell them what's best and worst about yours.

Could you all go bowling together or the cinema anything that takes the pressure off.

Hope this helps.

Good luck (The age gap thing.....don't worry about it, not much of a gap)

Answer 3

Man 19 and 28 ! Is a big age diference , i would watch out if i were you . Sorry but your relashionship is not going to last and (sorry i intrude) WELL ABOUT THE SHY THING. Your boyfriend should go tell his parents that he would like to have you over for dinner . (with the parents) So then the four of you can start a conversation. Ask the parent what they work in , if they have any brothers sister and you can talk about yourself (ofcourse) When you get to the conversation you will know what i meen.

Answer 4

i used to be terribly, terribly shy. this was always a problem when it came to meeting my boyfriend's family or friends. i'd avoid it like the plague! if there was no way for me to get out of it, i'd make sure that i told him to prep them, letting them know that i was on the shy and quiet side. that way, at least they'd already know what was up and wouldn't think i was a weirdo or something.

a lot of times, after i bit the bullet and just went through with the meeting, i ended up feeling like it wasn't nearly as bad as i thought it would be. and keep in mind that if your shyness is something you'd like to overcome, you're not doing yourself any favors by avoiding situations like these. if you guys are serious, you'll have to talk to them sooner or later.