Tempted. Should I cheat?

Question

In a new relationship with a new man.
Old boyfriend starts calling, asks to see me Friday night. I am fantasizing about seeing old bf.
Should I ?????
The sex with old bf was so good. Sex with new bf not-so-good. How in the world do you manage seeing 2 people at one time without losing both of them?
Is there a way to see both? And not get caught?

Answer 1

sure go ahead and tangle that web further - tie it in knots and make sure they are good and tight!!!

of course that was sarcastic - here's the thing
if you base your relationships solely on the quality of the sex, you fall into the same category of every loose, debased, unfeeling, uncaring, selfish and ignorant slob out there - be it man or woman.....

you are worth more than that! Wake up girl, there's more to a relationship than sex, there is more to love than sex, and there is more to life than sex. You are valuable, and you need to treat yourself better than that!!

Answer 2

Oh man. Girl you are a player. You are still wanting the old boyfriend because he makes you sexually happy.Ok I can understand that. This new relationship is headed down a dead end street.Obviously there was something about your last man you didnt like. I think you need to let this new man go.and be as nice as you could ever be without hurting him emotionally and go back to being buddies with your old boyfriend Just understand you are selling yourself out. Get a grip. Stand for yourself and move on from both. For whatever reasons you are insecure with yourself. Face your demons.You will find you are not such a bad person after all. We all have faults and limitations. Dont look outside yourself for something you already have. Just to note your new boyfriend may not be satisfied either. If this is the case is great for him. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

There's always a way to cheat and not get caught but is it worth it?? You always have to really think about it. Do you love your new man? Would you risk cheating and risk losing him. What if he did find out? What if he did leave you? Wouldn't it hurt? How would you feel if the new man cheated on you?
You must have left the old man for reasons and you must be with the new one because he's a good man. I don't think you should cheat.
As far as the seeing two people at once, I don't advise.

Answer 4

Sure! here are the basic requirements:

All you need is a good excuse (any one will do but a good one is better), a bottle of vodka (this multipurpose item both serves as a courage enhancer should you turn yellow at the last Minuit and as an alternative excuse on the off chance that your primary one doesn't go over too well) a and a cellphone with weak batteries (so you can turn it off and say the batteries ran out).

p.s. decide which one to tell that you are seeing someone else, and its no use trying to get you to change your mind. (in this case its probably your old bf).

Answer 5

Ok see here is how problems begin.
You have a closed relationship right? so don't cheat.
If you had a open relationship...you would tell him and he wouldn't mind if you sleep with him.

Girl beleive me you can find a good man that will accept what you want.
It doesn't sound like you are with the man you really want. Don't waste your time being sexually fustrated man i know how u feel girl.
I'd say let your man know look i'm going to see my ex for a few hrs and he can take it or leave it. You can try to get him to stay with you though while you have your cake and eat it too. Let him know. Be honest with your new man.
like...........letting him know from the jump that you and your ex & might still see him then he would've had an option to take it or leave it.
Good Luck

Answer 6

Obviously there was some problem with the old boyfriend that you arent with him anymore. Besides, you havent given the new man a chance to build the kind of intimacy you had with the old one. I really wouldnt try this. You might end up losing both of them. If you really want to be with the old boyfriend, you should break up with the new one as soon as possible. Leading a guy on is so cruel, and I am sure your old boyfriend would not be happy with you seeing other guys.

Answer 7

what was the reason for your breakup with old bf? and if your are already thinking of cheating on new bf just leave him. and secondly he wont get better in bed with you if you dont tell him what you want.... it has always worked for me. and if the sex is the only reason you are thinking of cheating wow.... just tell him how you want it and it will rock... so long as he listens:)
other wise tell him look im telling you what i want and your not listening..... it may hurt his ego but hey..... and then if that doesnt work ask for an open relationship he may leave you or you may get him and the sex without it being cheating.

Answer 8

you have to let one of them go. cheating is not the way out and in the end, its not going to be the 2 guys that will get hurt a lot, but you'll be hurt the most. at the same time, guilt will overpower you.

I know someone who had been in the same situation and he cheated and was with two women. i could see him day by day getting burned down and the guilt just took over him. it was not pretty.

you have to choose the person who you have the strongest connection to, don't base it on sex. choose the person you love and want to be with more and because of this, you'll have to let one of them go.

also, do not play with other peoples hearts just for your own pleasure.

so either choose one and let the other go, or you'll have to live with guilt

Answer 9

What are you. A woman or just a crotch. If you dont mean the new guy any good dont spoil him for someone else. Let him free and go back to your ex since the sex is all you want. You should know by now that thats all he wants from you.

Answer 10

Lose the new bf. if sex is not-so-good early on, the relationship will fizzle out anyway. just be honest and do the right thing. what if it were the other way around? karma always comes back to you. trust me, if you play that game, it will be played on you some day-and it will hurt. life is hard enough, why make it more difficult?