just a question from a question i read...?

Question

Ok so i just read a question that someone had there first child 2 mnths before they turned 14 thats really young for me! what do u feel about young pregnancy? and what would u do if your child had a baby at that age?

Answer 1

Insanity, pure insanity.
Children should not have children. The world has changed drastically in the last few hundred years. Well at least in the western part. The average lifespan is much much longer than it was 400 years ago. Back then, 14 yrs old was middle age. Women are no longer sold like chattel and they are intricate parts of the socioeconomic system. Women no longer need clans for protection and can live and take care of themselves without anyone's help. Having children a such a young age has to be ingrained from some illogical point of view which generally has religious overtones. Experience is insurance for survival so we could deduce that a 14 year girl could suffer psychologically and physically and put herself in a dangerous position if she chooses this path without the years of experience it takes to make such an important decision. Don't let other people's ideals or morals stand in the way of logic. Having babies at 14 doesn't pass the smell test. It's plain stupid.

Answer 2

I think its crazy that kids are getting pregnant sooo young. I know alot of girls do it just to make mom and dad mad, or they want more or less a living baby doll. Its soo unhealthy for such a young body to go through such a trauma! My mom had me when she was 15 and she ended up with a lot of health issued because of it! I have talked to alot of girls that have said the same thing. SO I waited, not as long as I wanted to but still longer than 14-18 LOL. SO girls Please be safe! If you want to have a baby now, try babysitting. Its much easier when you can give the baby back!

Answer 3

That is way too young to have a baby. The problem is that once a child reaches puberty, their hormones are in high gear but their emotional and mental maturity is still that of a child.

We are extremely prudish with sexual education in the United States. Children need to be educated at a very early age about sex and how to protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and how to prevent pregnancies.

Parents need to start this education at home. Not discussing it with your children will not make it go away or prevent them from having sex.

Answer 4

I would hope that I never be in that position. I have been talking to my kids about sex since they were 8. I have an open door policy with my kids about everything. They can come to me without concern about reprisals, because I want them to come to me FIRST AND FORMOST, rather than a friend.

We discuss sex, drugs, alcohol, HIV/AIDS, other std's. Some people may think I am crazy, but I would rather arm them with too much info than not enough.


I tell them every action has a consequence, no matter how little.
I encourage them to be individuals not just follow the crowd.

The crowd won't be the ones who have to suffer for any mistakes only them.

Answer 5

14 is just to young. I remember when I was 14 I thought I knew everything and no one could convince me otherwise. I got pregnant at 16 and gave birth at 17. We are married and have 2 beautiful children together still not quite the statistic. I wasnt ready then. If my daughter got pregnant, I dont believe in abortion but I would leave it up to her. Considering adoption etc.

Answer 6

I have a daughter who is almost 13 and I have seen questions like that and it scares the bejezus out of me! I would like to think that I would be supportive, but I also beleive that 14 is too young to be a mom. The short answer is I don't know what I would do.

Answer 7

I am 29, and i don't have any children, by choice. I am also a teacher, and i see girls at my school who have gotten pregnant, and leave it to their moms to take of their child. I think it's ridiculous. When i become a parent I want my daughter to be able to come to me about issues like sex etc etc...so that i can help take the proper precautions..ie. birth control...condoms etc. If she were to become pregnant at an early age, I would definitely have her consider terminating the pregnancy or adoption.

Answer 8

I think its a shame but it happens. If I had a daughter who had a child at that age I guess I would find a way to watch the baby and make her go to school. I'd make sure to grill her to do ever homework assignment and study hard for ever test.

In my family you take care of your own, thats how it goes.

Answer 9

if she was raped i would raise the child myself until she was able. (assuming she wanted the child)
if she went out and had unprotected sex with a boy, knowing full well what could happen, she would NOT be living with me. she would have to find some kind of way to keep her baby and herself warm at night and fed. or give it up for adoption (preferably open adoption). when you get of legal age you can go visit.

Answer 10

I have a 13y/o daughter and a 16y/o son.....I would be absolutely mortified if either one came home and told me they had made a bad dicision and someone was pregnant. (being my daughter, or my son's girlfriend) I'm not stupid enough to think that it doesn't happen all the time, everywhere. I'm also not naive, to think that "it would never happen to my daughter, or in my family" However, parents have to talk to their children, (SONS and DAUGHTERS)..... spend quality time with their children, parents have to "arm" their children with high self-esteem, and self-love and self respect. It's happening to children who are younger and younger...parents who are required to work outside the home, single parent homes....they have to take extra measures to keep tabs on where there children are, and who they are with. Parents have to know who there kids "friends" are....who their friends, parents are...It's not being nosy, it's being a good parent. We have to teach our children how to be responsible, by setting good examples, and being responsible ourselves. There's not a person anywhere who can say that they haven't made a bad choice once in there life, we as parents have to be there to guide our children, so they have someone there to talk to when an issue arises and they aren't sure what "decision" is the "right" decision.