My best friend is getting married .. we just finished high school 3 years back n shes already getting married to her boy friend of 3 yrs . . they r a really great couple and im glad they r happy.. but marriage is a big deal right ? not only am i worried that my friend is jumping into this too soon but also the idea of her being married makes me feel old n , grown up cos we both r the same age .. and cos it ll nevr be the same for all of us once she gets married and starts a real life ..i know its not nice of me to feel this way .. is it normal to feel uncomfortable abt this ?
shes really happy n excited abt the whole wedding thing so im also smiling along with her .. shud i tell her how i feel
2006-11-02 04:23:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
okay the feelings your feeling are real and happen often you should tell your friend how happy you are for her but how you expect to still have a girls night once a month or whatever it is where you all go to dinner or something. That way she knows your feeling a little weird about it but that your totally supporting her. But you should say something, because you may not notice it yourself but I bet your friend has already noticed a change in you since her engagment and you don't want her to think your upset about her happy news. Talk with her but let her know she has your 110% support. Besides your going to spend so much time with her planner her wedding being a brides maid or MOH, you never know.
2006-11-02 04:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy tha tyour friend has found someone she loves and wants to spend the rest of her life with. It is not too soon as they've been together for 3 years. You need to learn to let her go b/c when you say "things won't be the same for all of us" it kinda sounds like you're jealous and just want her for yourself. We all reach a point in our lives where our first girl friend gets married and we have this, OMG WHAT are you doing feelings? but trust me, be there for your friend, support her, and love her! And just think of all the fun you will have planning her wedding! Good luck!
2006-11-02 04:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I felt the same way when my best got married. I actually went home and cried after the ceremony. I wasn't mad or upset that she was getting married, I was more upset that I wasn't the one getting married. It was difficult for me because she didn't date much in high school and she disappeared for a few years, but she's back in the circle and everything's cool. I personally kept my feelings to myself because I didn't want her to be upset with me, and wind up never coming back. Just be sure of what you're upset about.
2006-11-02 04:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by grrlstarr79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever try and convince him! He let you know when he's ready. If you convince/force him. You'll have an animal backed into a corner. Nothing good will come of it. If he's dedicated to you then whats the problem. Don't try and fix something that isn't broken. GM
2016-05-23 17:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's call jealousy, and it's natural. Your just scared your relationship will change. You can tell her about your concerns, but i would do it in a " i hope we'll still be able to spend time together" kind of way. And don't make it all about you, support her in her wedding efforts, become a part of their life, and you'll be ok.
2006-11-02 04:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natural feelings for you to have.
Don't tell her. Your friendship will change, as it should, but don't make her feel bad becuase of your feelings.
When my best friend got married (many years ago) I had depression because of the change in our relationship and the bit of jealousy that she had someone who loved her and I didn't. Time passed and so did the feelings. Yours will too.
2006-11-02 04:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there may be a twinge of jealousy on your part. You will likely have your day too one day. Try to be there for your friend and you'll be a better person for it.
2006-11-02 05:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by meoorr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont Worry, the time could be the best friend in this time, you cant do anything for this problem in this moment, the friendship could be better because there could be problems. If you stay there all the time she will tell her problems all the time
2006-11-02 04:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't...better to keep this to yourself, unless you really feel she can handle hearing your opinion without being upset. No sense in stirring up trouble, ya know?
2006-11-02 04:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS HER LIFE LET HER DO WHATEVER FEELS LIKE LOL
2006-11-02 04:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by lAUREL B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋