When ever i go anywhere he starts crying hes 11 months and he doesnt stay with anyone else what can i do?
2006-11-02 04:18:16 · 7 answers · asked by lost_in_love_still 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The best thing is to reassure him that you will be back and then make your goodbyes short and sweet. The more you linger and allow him to hang onto you, the more he is going to cry because it's getting him what he wants. He will be fine, it may not sound like it, but he will be. I have a day care in my home and taught preschool for several years before that and all kids do this at one point in time or another. They DO grow out of it, some take longer than others yes, but it does not last forever.
2006-11-02 07:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem mine is 7 months old and breast fed. I thought it was that she didn't want a bottle. Her pediatrician says it is normal for babies to go through separation anxiety at this age. You should play peek a boo and move around the house but still let him hear your voice so that when you leave he knows your still around and you plan on coming back. I really wouldn't worry to much. By letting him know that you are there for him you are giving him the security he needs. My 7 year old was like that for years, now i can't get her to stay home and spend time with mommy.
2006-11-02 12:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lori Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called separation anxiety and many many American children develop it. This is because most Americans do not allow their children to sleep in the same bed as them. Most of the rest of the world does. So this problem is really quite unique to American culture. The only way to cure it is to go though a series of exercises over a number of months that show your child that you aren't going to abandon them. A normal child should venture out and then come back periodically. Staying in the same place while they play is a good way to build that trust.
Many people are never cured of this. It is reflected in our daily lives. Many women who are promiscuous do so because of deep rooted childhood abandonment issues. Men often develop commitment issues for the same reason. It is a more serious problem then most people would like to admit.
2006-11-02 12:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way is to start leaving him with other people a little bit at a time. Then gradually a little longer, until he is use to being with other people. Worked great for me.
2006-11-02 13:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is seperation anxiety, what ever you do don't sneak off, reassure hm you will be back. try maybe leaving for like 10 minutes, and show him u will be back. Sometimes, out of sight out of mind. Good luck, all my kids have done that.
2006-11-02 12:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by shorte716 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal until he will be around 3 years old.He needs to learn that you will always come to him.After he will understand this,it will be OK.Explain to him every time you go that you will return after he eats,sleeps etc.Be patient...it happens so often!
2006-11-02 12:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by ana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called separation anxiety. ALL kids go through it and they will eventually get over it.
2006-11-02 12:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Jenn♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋