But 3 weeks ago we met up just for a catch up and went to the cinema and we kissed the following weekend I ended up staying the night I love him to bits but I locked up my feelings 4months ago when we finished and I am so afraid to let my feelings go incase I get hurt again, I'm having a chat with him this weekend because I want to be sure he's definite before I make up my mind. What should I say to him?Serious answers only.
2006-11-02 04:00:10 · 12 answers · asked by rainbow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away. Why do you keep going back for more? That's not love... you do know that, right?
2006-11-02 04:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And the reasons for breaking up were??? (I can figure out why you get together :).
Analyze the reasons for breaking up with him - so many times. If they are serious (forget about small quarrels), be serious and stop seeing him. Do you think he will change? (nope...)
If those reasons were childish, then give him a chance - but have a heart to heart discussion with him.
Does he have other gf? Is he seeing someone else? Investigate... and the decide.
You can not build a healthy relationship based ONLY on one (pleasant) night together...
2006-11-02 04:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Doris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him exactly how you feel because keeping it in for 4 months did not work well. If ye are getting on well now then its possible that he feels the same but maybe hes afraid also and is waiting for you to open up first. I hope it all works out well for you, good luck!
2006-11-02 04:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, it's over....once the relationship has been broken that many times, it's very hard to mend. Too much work if the breaking up continues. Time to let go. Having a girls night after that usually helps!!! Good luck!!
2006-11-02 04:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by CLW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should write down the pros and cons in your diary, and decide for yourself. Don't wait for what he has to say about whether or not to get back together. You need to make up your mind first. It's YOUR life!! Breaking up and getting back together 4 times in just over 3 years is crazy...you HAVE to make a complete break from this guy, or a complete commitment (if you are REALLY prepared to do that). Did he disrespect you or demean you, did he hurt you by cheating, did he neglect the relationship, did he physically hurt you....ALL these things don't change easily. Is he worth going through another heartbreak again, or is he intensely serious about changing, and does he have a hard and cold plan on changing...you need him to spell out very plainly what steps he's taking to change (anger management course, AA meetings) whatever concrete plans on changing. The same goes for you...you need to admit what are your faults and make concrete steps to changing....put your plan it in writing for your own reference and remembrance. You don't want to go through life with this guy and be 60 yrs old having broken up and gotten back together 60 times?!? What are the reasons you guys broke up? If you're deciding to break up, you need to tell your close friends and family what your decision is so that they can keep you in check and support you in your decision and keep you busy while trying to stay away from him and HEAL!! If you decide to break up, you need to be really straight up with him and tell him to stay away...an YOU also need to stay away if you're going to clean up your perspective on the relationship. If you break up, give yourself at least 1 year before getting into a relationship...no one wants to get in a relationship with someone who still has an "Ex" on their mind.
2006-11-02 04:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by CocoaGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you cant take another heart break. That if he really wants to be together he needs to be seriouse and be sure he wont hurt you again. Tell him this is the last time you will forgive him and if he messes up again that there wont be no more chances.
2006-11-02 04:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if you were already in the process of moving on stay on it
hes hurt you before the odds are he will do it again
you should just let him go and find someone who wont hurt you
2006-11-02 04:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it gets eny easier the same happend to me then we kept splitting up because he felt guilty for hurting me,, but just kept on hurting me through the guilt,,,oh my god what a big circle!!!!!
2006-11-02 04:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by kimble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on. the 2 of you are not going to work. one or the other has too many issues.
2006-11-02 04:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by inmann123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it and make a start on your new life
2006-11-02 04:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋