How can I ask this guy out?

Question

theres this guy who lives a few doors away from me and I really fancy him, but I feel afraid to ask him out as ik dont know if hes single, I think he might be, hes asked me out before but I said no as I was only 16 and s**t myself because hes in his 20's and as I live so close if my mum and rest of the family found out theyd go buserk, as he white, not that theyre racist, (indian families still backwards) :% but now I'm 18 and and I dont feel confident to ask him out, and I dont know if he likes me.

Answer 1

Considering that he has already asked you out in the past (even if it was a few years back), half of the work is already done. It sounds like he already has feelings for you. I think that what you should do is start talking to him again.. don't just jump right into the relationship, start off talking to him, talk to some friends of his to see if he is single, and if that is not possible.. be like "Your girlfriend's lucky.." and test the waters. Most likely he will then at that point say "I'm single" or "Yea, she is" This would probably be a good indicator. You may not use the exact phrase, but whatever you choose to that extent should take care of that problem. My advice is, gee, just to get the friendship built back up, and get it to where you feel comfortable with him and want to get into a relationship. Just keep in mind, that no matter what happens, it will happen in its own time, no need to hurry things along.. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you really like him whatever you do dont have a friend pull that junior high crap and ask him for you, thats bad. Do it yourself and just kind of look at how things are going, start a convo, if he seems flirty or interested go for it. I have to say though be careful cuz a guy in his 20's asking out a 16 year old might be a creep!

Answer 3

If you still live at home, your parents make the overall decision. Dateline had a story about something to the sort. An Indian family did not want their daughter to go out with a person and the killed her and attempted to kill him. Good luck though

Answer 4

I am a guy and i say you get dressed up , you know what i mean just look nice. Ween you see him at home just start up a conversation with him and tell him that you want another chance to take him up on his offer. what do you have to lose? as far as your family , you need to live your own life, follow your own dreams, and most of all follow your heart. if you do that everything else will fall into place.

Answer 5

I think he will still like you just say that you've grown up a lot since the age of 16 and would feel more comfortable going out with him now.

Answer 6

I'd swing by and ask him if he's free some night soon because you were hoping he'd go out to coffee or something like that with you. It's very laid back but enough that he'll get that you're interested. If he's involved with someone else I'm sure it'll come up and he'll let you know.

Answer 7

Just knock on the door all glammed up for a night out and say your friend has let you down but you really wanted to go out, shame to waste the night did he fancy going for a meal / drink / cinema / bowling

Answer 8

I would just approach him with that. Remind him that he asked you out a few years ago but due to your age you declined. Now that you are 18 you would like to accept this offer if it's still open. Don't be offended if he has changed his mind.

Answer 9

Knock on his door and ask to borrow something such as a tool.

Return it an hour later, and then tell him that you feel like going for a drink.

He'll probably invite you then.

Answer 10

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are u muslim by the way or indian as in Hindu? be careful, i knw its hard coz i have been in that situation too but i never went anywhere near it coz i have seen the consequesnces of friends and it aint a good 1. u will, in the near future be asked to choose family or the guy of ur dreams but both wont be allowed both so not worth the hassle sometimes. i dunno, depends if ur muslim or not. email me and tell me. i might give different reasons for it if ur muslim or if ur not but u get me right? family dont wanna knw u if u make them loose their respect in society. thats the way it is but i live with it and thats life i guess.