i was with my ex boyf for 5 years. we were engaged and bought our own flat. i split from him about 6 months ago. anyways, ive started seeing this guy. nothing really has happened. we have only kissed. he knows about my previous relationship etc. its all really casual with this guy. is he being casual with me coz of my past relationship or is he not that interested?
2006-11-02 03:54:52 · 15 answers · asked by Pretty Little Girl xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he is just taking his time, most say you should wait a year or two before dating and becoming close to someone,
otherwise we tend to find people like the person we have just lived with,
2006-11-02 03:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the majority of the population over the age of 18 has a previous relationship of some sort, I doubt that is why he is being casual. I think you probably know deep down whether he's interested or not. In my experience lots of guys just want a "girlfriend" so they don't feel inadequate. Perhaps you should stay at the "only kissing" stage until you are more certain of his feelings for you.
2006-11-02 04:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by crosbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that everybody is diffrent and i think"is he being casual with me coz of my past relationship or is he not that interested" you should ask him this question this is the best thing to do tell hjim how you feel. i was in the same page and we are working on it and so far i feel better. because i waited for a whole week and all we did was just pecked kiss..... we known eachother witch maybe that was why. i am pretty sure he must have a reason as well and it doesn necessaraly mean he does not like you... you never know until u try... if he doesn't give you a responce suring that whole week of giving him hints point it out directly or walk away and tell him why you are doing it and how you feel
2006-11-02 04:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well new relationships usually are casual at first. You need to get to know each other. Maybe he is being casual because you come across casual or alternatively he is just taking things slow as that is the way he is with new relationships. It's too early to say if he is interested or not. If your concerned speak to him about it or otherwise just spend the time with him having fun and enjoying yourself and see how things go. If a relationship is meant to be it will naturally take its course.
2006-11-02 04:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is just part of who he is. Remember that you have not been 'out there' for a while and perhaps your ex is not the casual type. I suppose it's only natural to compare the two. Relationships are a two way street so if he introduces you to his friends, work collegues etc, does things for you like you do for him, then I think he is ok and just a bit chilled. But if you are doing most of the work then I think you may be onto something. Remember not everyone wears their emotions on their sleeves.
2006-11-02 04:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a pretty big deal to people. To be dating someone thats out of a 5 year relationship for only six months. Thats a short period of time for something like that and I'm sure he's scared of being a rebound. Trust me, it happened to me. I was the rebound guy, and I even played it casually like this guy is doing. Be open with him and ask his opinion of things, and I'm sure it will all work out for the best.
2006-11-02 03:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by ka250 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that he is not interested but only that he wants to know you better before committing more. and dont worry about it, just give it time and you will see him trying to be in the relationship more as the passage of time sometimes give us guys a lil bit sense if security to commit more to the relationship
2006-11-02 04:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ayati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told him all about the ex, and the split up, well he may think you're still getting over things, he is being a gent! Good on him!
2006-11-02 03:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be approaching you with delicacy because he doesn't want to startle you. By giving you the space you need, he is respecting you and the time you may need to make the transition from one relationship to another.
2006-11-02 03:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never tell a man about your past relationships.
2006-11-02 04:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋