Would you ever break up with someone because you felt like you couldn't spend enough time with them? My friend who has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years just got broken up with, His excuse is that he hates that she is home at night..and that she doesn't care about spending a few minutes with him each night..he doesn't feel like its fair to her that he doesn't see her that much...I personally think its BS, but what do you all think? Would you ever break up with a person you have already been dating for 2 years just because you don't see them that much...and they do see each other more then just 15 minutes a night.
2006-11-02 03:50:29 · 34 answers · asked by Sarah D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I wouldn't just break up with someone because I couldn't spend enough time with them, I would break up with them because of the truth...usually people say one thing and mean another because they are afraid of hurting someone, I don't know why people think that the truth is gonna hurt more then finding out that they are lying but they do. and its stupid.
2006-11-04 00:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how much time they are spending together, so I can't properly answer this question.
I have had to break up with a girl before because of a long distance relationship (basically we couldn't see eachother and we broke up because we couldn't spend time together).
I would guess that the dude in that relationship is probably just feeling slighted and unimportant. Does your friend spend more time alone? With her friends? Or with him?
I am not Dr. Phil here, but I have reason to believe that if your friend just showed the guy a little more attention here and there, they probably wouldn't have broken up.
To answer your question, though, from a guy's perspective, Yes I think that would be a legitimate reason to break up with a girl.
2006-11-02 03:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Big Guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard this one before from a guy I dated for a year and 1/2. Unfortunately, breakups are always sugar coated. Chances are he's probably seeing someone else, or there is someone else he wants to see, or something similar to this and he's looking for an easy out. It has nothing to do with her~ she hasn't done anything wrong~ and sorry if this isn't the answer she wants to hear, but guys (especially in their 20's and younger) are really dumb at coming up with excuses for this sort of thing... sorry baby I know it hurts, but let him go, and if it was meant to be it will happen! Good luck hope this helps :]
2006-11-02 04:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are spending quality (not quantity) time together, then yes, I think it is a bs excuse that he is using to get out of a relationship. He could be a needy person though and be the kind that needs constant attention, and she is better off without him in the long run b/c he would probably be controlling and annoying. Either way, it looks like she is better off.
2006-11-02 03:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by ltlchk_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be just an excuse... but obviously something doesn't feel right to him and he wants out of this relationship. If the relationship is not working for him, why does your girlfriend wish to invest more time with this guy? Time to move on, I say.
There's someone out there who doesn't need to use a petty excuse (when things aren't what one wants) and will be mature enough to discuss the "real" problem and try to "fix" it before he moves on.
2006-11-02 04:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by M C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the excuse given for a break in relationship matters little. Most likely, the relationship was in trouble for a while. It seems both partners took it for granted. If they love each other, they will find a way to be together again; if they don't, the break is better for both of them. It is good for you to be supportive, but let your friend take care of her own relationships. Good luck!
2006-11-02 04:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's saying his needs are not being met. I don't know if he's just needy or there is really something like genuine affection missing from your description however. It could mean anything: it could be she just isn't that interested in him, and he senses it, intimacy issues on her part, any number of things. You need a lot more specifics to be able to answer this question.
At this point, it doesn't really matter other than for educational purposes however.
If this keeps happening in your friends relationships in the future, then maybe she does have a problem.
2006-11-02 03:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a cop out. Something else is up. You don't break up with someone after 2 years because you don't see them enough. You figure out ways to make time for each other when you want to be with someone.
2006-11-02 03:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lame excuse. A lot of times when guys want to dump a girl they will find a really stupid reason to do it just so they actually have a reason. I had a guy break up with me because I took his name out of some comments I had on my webpage, I just wanted to change them but that was his chance to throw a fit and break it off, I later found out the real reason he wanted to break up was because he had been cheating on me and got the other girl pregnant. Guys suck sometimes!
2006-11-02 03:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh I think he is being selfish and very needy. It's obvious that she has other priorities that she has to take of and he seems like he does not under stand that. 2 years is a while to be dating some one just to break up with them over not spending more than enough time with them.
2006-11-02 03:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by black beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋