i'm getting a financial aid check for $2,025 soon. My mom is ALWAYS asking me "when are you getting it?" and "how much do you think you owe me?" and "have you made out a list of the things that you need?" WHY? she makes PLENTY of money, why is she always trying to take mine? I don't have a job right now, and I need money just like the next person. I don't think I'm being greedy, I think my mom is, because she always does this: she tries to guilt me and manipulate me into giving her my money, and then yells and screams at me when i don't give her all of it. Is she evil or what? i'm not even excited about getting my check b/c i know it will be a big a)ss deal. do you think this is fair? it seems like whenever i get money, even like $5 dollars, my mom will tell me how i should spend it. what is her problem ? she is also constantly coming up with new things that I owe her, like gas money, food money, and all other type of s(hit that she is just trying to claim so she can takemy $
2006-11-02 03:38:37 · 6 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MOVE OUT
thet what shes trying to tell ya
2006-11-02 04:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with your mom? If so do you think she has spent that amount of money on you? NOW I do believe it is wrong what she is doing to you (No child should have to pay for what a parent does for them), but is your peace of mind worth $2000? Offer to pay a bill like the car note or the rent, and remember it's a lot more expensive to live on your own. However, when you offer to pay a bill do it with a smile on your face (even if it feels like she driving a knife in your gut). And anytime you get a decent amount of money, offer her something before she gets a chance to ask. At least until you can move out her house.
2006-11-02 12:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a horrible parent. she should be ashamed of herself. crappy parents force their insecurities on you thus passing the buck on whats really wrong with them instead of growing a pair and facing their problems. i have a feeling she is bad with money, or at least unsure about anything she spends money on, always second guessing herself.
try reading "toxic parents" im not sure of the author. excellent excellent book.
it may help you understand how much of a terrible individual she is and gain a little more control over your own situation.
id say if the check is made out to you and your over 18 you neednt give her a dime. you dont charge your kids for raising them.
if your under 18, go to the bank by yourself and try to get some type of certificate of deposit on the money until your 18. or consult some type of financial advisor, guidance counselor (even though theyre useless) priest, deacon, or other trusted ally.
good luck. REMEMBER! its never your fault for being alive. your mother is horrible and its not your fault.
2006-11-02 11:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by eastcoastrockerdude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom is a money grubbing whore.if you deserve it dont give her sh*t she can say all she wants but that money is for you.the only reason she keeps doing it is cause you let her. tell her no. the reason you have to borrow money and owe her is cause she takes what you have so you have to ask for money right back.your mom is evil and youre not being selfish.youre just taking what is rightfully yours
2006-11-02 11:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by mikeisicc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your old enough to be out on your own...I suggest you get out. If not you and your mom need to come to some sort of agreement on expenses. You definetly need to get a job and start sving because you should be contributing SOMETHING to the household..
2006-11-02 11:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that money is for your schooling and YOU will be repaying that loan for years to come, she is not entitled to any of it.
2006-11-02 11:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋