I recently got engaged in October and have set a date for 2008. Since my wedding is so far off, I'm unsure as to when I should ask my friends to be my bridesmaids? I think a few of them are starting to wonder but I also don't want anything to happen and change my mind on who I am asking (most have been long term friends but you never know!)
2006-11-02 03:30:40 · 12 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I say 9 months before, you want to make sure that you have chosen the right friends and family as your bridesmaids. You dont want to chose them too early in case of a disagreement or fallout.
Im planning on a June 2008 wedding too, and I have decided on most of the bridal party and only 4 of my friends know (life long also) and I am having doubts on one, so I want to wait and ask.Plus since they already know, they are constantly talking about the wedding and not everyone knows. Then I have 2 of my friends already fighting for maid of honor!
Make sure to give them enough time to save $ and lose 5lbs if necessary, holidays are coming and some of us eat too much pie = ) So I think 9 months is good. Im coming out in a wedding in July and I was just told, and it gives me enough time to save money and lose some holiday weight.
*Goodluck!*
2006-11-02 03:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess this really depends on who you plan to have as your bridesmaids. If you want a family member like a sister or cousin, it's probably fine to ask them now or within the next few months. However, if it's a friend, you might wait a bit longer. I once had a friend ask me to be her bridesmaid about a year in advance, but by the time the wedding had rolled around, we'd gotten into a fight and weren't on great terms with each other. Yet another of her friends moved across the country before then. Life can change, especially with friends. Trust me, my friend's wedding was not a comfortable one.
I'd say if you want a relative as your bridesmaids, feel free to ask at any time. For friends, maybe wait until about 6 to 9 months before the wedding, just to be on the safe side. At least that's been my experience with things like this. Good luck!
2006-11-02 11:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kate B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked mine a year in advance. I made eveyone a shirt that said bridesmaid on it and one for my MOH... with a little note asking if they would be a bridesmaid. I think a year is a good enough time, becasue you have to get them together to start looking at dresses and what not.... I got my girls together 11 months before the wedding and their dresses aren't going to be ready until 2 months before the wedding, so you don't want to wait that long. And like you said most are long term friends so its not likely that your decision will change. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 11:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask now. I am in a wedding in sept 2007 , and I was asked to be a bridesmaid back in february. The longer they have to be ready the better. Have a "wedding update" bbq about 6-8 months before the date and get the dresses ect picked out and orderd then. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-11-02 11:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 yr from the date of the wedding is good enough. Bridesmaids need to pay for their own dresses and accessories and they may not all have that kinda money on short notice.
2006-11-02 11:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've really got your head on right. I would personally wait. This past year seemed to be the year for weddings for me, mine, my two best friends, another friend, my moh's brother-in-law, etc. The list just goes on, and another good friend is in your position. It makes sense to wait because at this age friends will change, even some long term friends. It was simple for me to choose my moh, and I chose her in middle school, well before I met my husband. But the other girls are different. I'd wait.
2006-11-02 14:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggetion.
Go to a bridal shop and ask how long it takes for them to produce bridesmaids' dresses. Let's say that they say, 10 weeks. I'd at least triple that time, 30 weeks. Allow for another 15 weeks for them to actually go for measurements. So, in this case it would be 45 weeks (10 to 11 months).
2006-11-02 11:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Da Judge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year before the wedding date, ask who you want. Now is too early - you might change your mind. A year before is just right and enough time.
2006-11-02 11:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask them about 3-4 months before the wedding that way if anything happens between now and then u won't have to worry about figureing it out
2006-11-02 11:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by wizard402006 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask them 6 months before they wedding
2006-11-02 11:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Single 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋