im living with my aunt and uncle.
2006-11-02 03:28:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are worrying that you are a burden, subconsciously you might be picking up signs from them that they don't verbalize. Rather than putting them on the spot and asking them if you are a burden, tell them that you are concerned about being a burden and ask them what you can do to help out. Open discussion in a positive manner will alleviate your concerns. Best wishes!
2006-11-02 03:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by davystam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are hinting at you moving out, asking if you've found a place of your own, when you are planning on moving, etc... If they ask for rent when you didn't have to pay any before. If they make comments about doing your laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc...
If they don't say or do anything that could give you a clue, then you have no way of knowing unless you ask out right.
So ask as often as you can what you can do to help out. Whether it's cleaning, laundry, cooking, or paying some rent each month, you won't be a burden if you are contributing in some way to the household.
Then make sure you are saving up. Even if you don't NEED to move out for some reason, you should think about at least having the money for the future. I doubt you want to live with them forever; you should one day want a place of your own.
So if you aren't already doing it, put 1/4 or so of your paycheck into savings so that in a few months, you would have enough to rent a place if the need arises. That way you are also showing your aunt and uncle that you are planning for the future, and they will be more open to you staying with them. If you spent all of your money on things you don't need, then they will feel taken for granted, like you expect to continue living there with no thought to being independent one day.
2006-11-02 11:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you helping out financially with any of the living expenses? Do you help out with the housework, cooking, laundry?
Do they appear to be struggling when the bills come in trying to figure out where the money is coming to pay them? Are there things that have had to be downsized due to an extra person in the house?(such as downsizing the cable Tv,or selling one car,or no longer going out to eat, etc.)
If these have occured, then it might be time to start looking for another place to stay. But, sometimes even those things occuring are worth it to family to keep the family together, so trust your instincts if they say that you really is not a burden.
Just try and help out in whatever way you can.
2006-11-02 21:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not help out financially or physically with the upkeep of the household you are a burden. As a guest on a long term basis, you should have chores to do, contribute financially for the food and utilities you are costing them (even if they have money), and have your own life and friends outside of the home so as not to make them feel they have to entertain you. By all means, respect that you are in their home and abide by their rules. They are probably doing this because they love you. Good luck!
2006-11-02 11:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can to make things easier on them. If you have no job or aren't old enough to get one, do household chores. You have no idea how helpful this actually is. Show them your appreciation by cooking dinner. Tell them what their help means to you. All this sound menial to you, but simple appreciation goes a long way.
2006-11-02 11:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you fell like you are? Are there hints that you are?
If you feel you are, watch their habits and how they interact with you, actions speak louder at times than words.
Or just come out and ask them directly.
Best of luck
2006-11-02 11:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell...
HOWEVER..
Just because the appear to be struggling, it does not
mean that they would rather struggle on without you as a
member of their family...
Perhaps you are struggling together as a family and
your leaving would hurt them....
2006-11-02 11:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lookin at yer pickchare jus arsk fer a bigga field
2006-11-02 11:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by fredi b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay to long, everyone becomes a burden!
2006-11-02 11:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them that you seriously need to know .
2006-11-02 11:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋