i'm getting awarded $2,025 in financial aid, and my mom is always asking me "when is your check coming," and "you know you owe me $600," and yes, she has paid for my books which all equaled about $150, plus my bus passes which were about $200, but that's all. That doesn't equal $600 dollars! I don't have a job right now, and I really need money, and my mom is a teacher with a masters and makes a whole lot of money. Do you think it is fair that she is trying to take most of my money? I am not even excited about getting the check in the mail, b/c a) she is probably looking for it, and b) she is going to try to take all of it, or find some way for me to spend it on something stupid so I'll be broke. What should I do?
2006-11-02 03:25:43 · 16 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Financial Aid
Once your tuition and books are paid for, you should put the rest of the money away, in the bank for future use. If you are unemployed, this money is what you are supposed to live on until next semester. Maybe you could repay your mom the money she has paid for your books but you don't want to have to ask her for more money before the semester ends. As a mom, I would prefer to let you keep the money in your own bank account and allow you to budget yourself so you don't have to ask her for more money when your funds run out. Maybe she plans to take the money from you now, only to return it to you later when you ask for financial help. Sounds like you need to communicate with your mom and let her know that you want to be financially responsible for your own money. If you give her $200, she should be happy and know that she is helping you by helping you to become a responsible adult while attending college. Good Luck. Don't forget that someday you will have to repay your financial aid.
2006-11-02 03:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by suctioncup83616 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is it fair now that irresponsible mortgage companies get bailed out to the tune of a trillion dollars by the government with no real accountability? Is it fair that we spent another trillion dollars to make a mess in Iraq, again with no accountability? Is it fair that we are subsidizing jobs leaving this country? Is it fair that a quarter of Americans go without health insurance, or that a good percentage of them are children? Is it fair that we spending a large percentage of our tax money on interest payments for previously borrowed money? Honestly, I think it might also work to tax all Americans to pay down the debt, but I very much doubt anyone who would make such a suggestion would get elected. However, if you don't want a tax break because you think it is unfair for a small percentage of people at the top, then don't vote for Obama.
2016-05-23 17:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is this not fair, but it may be illegal on several levels. If your mom gets your check from the mail and opens it, she will commiting mail fraud, a federal felony (assuming you are already 18) . If she tries to cash the check, it is bank fraud.
Now to the basis of your question, should you give her any of the check. That is totally up to you, you admit to oweing her 350 (books and bus pass). The rest of the money is yours. If you do decide to not give her anymore, then she will be entirely in her rights by charging you rent (if you live with her) or even making you pay bills. She can simply stop supporting you if she likes (again, assuming you are 18 already). This sounds like a judgement call that only you can make based on your relationship with your mother.
You must consider wheither she will do any of the things i have mentioned. Is your mother the vengeful type? It really seems like a decision that will vary from person to person; you have to make up your own mind.
2006-11-02 03:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by lfg8764 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well lets see you mom is not entitle to the money exect for what you owe her , but do you have reason to believe she wont help you out later with the expense , the admount you said you were revieving seems like a low admount ,, that is if it is to pay for cost of books and courses , etc...by telling her you want give her the 600 do you think that would stop her from later on helping you when you really need it, another thing do you live with her and if so are you paying rent..if you are legal age you should be working and paying your way, unless you and your mom agree that you would consitrate on school instead
2006-11-02 03:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i'd only give her what she gave you, which sounds like $350. I wouldn't give her anything more, because she is just trying to manipulate you and make you feel like her owe her the world. wouldn't you do the same thing if you could? i wouldn't but a lot of parents would. she obviously doesn't need your money, and i would think that a parent would want their child to have as much money as possible to pay for their expenses and the things that they want. don't let her take advantage of you, b/c that is exactly what she is trying to do, and so what if she yells and screams at you, if she does, it's because she knows she's wrong. if she kicks you, out, hey at least you'll have some money to live on for awhile....i'll bet that will REALLY piss her off!!!!!!!!! good luck, and KEEP YOUR MONEY!!!!!!!
2006-11-02 03:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is the financial aid a pell grant? In that case, your books and stuff like that will be taken out of that when you buy them.
If the check is only in your name, and you're old enough, just deposit it into your own account. My mom asks me to borrow money from mine, but she slways pays it back, and uses it for bills and stuff like that.
But good luck anyway.
2006-11-02 03:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's not fair on the surface....but, you do live at home....do you pay any rent or bills? or maybe your mom wants to take the $600.00 and put it aside for you.....I know how you feel....when i lived at home my mom would ask for money from the little money i got when i worked, but you know i learned responsibility....and when i went out on my own, i already knew what it was like to pay bills........hang in there
2006-11-02 03:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
since you are responsible to pay back any loans as the loan is in your name
your mother is not entitled to any of that money
to me i would say it is illegal for her to obtain or use any of those funds when you cash the check open your own bank account then she cant get here hands on it
find a job and either move out or get a dorm room
this is a form of abuse
2006-11-02 03:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That money is yours and you need to do with it what you feel is right in your specific situation. Try talking to her and letting her know you don't agree with her thoughts, etc. Good luck!
2006-11-02 08:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by bluedevilstudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is yours. Open your own account and cash your check. Pay her the money she let you borrow for books and stuff.
Do not give her any more.
Stand up for yourself. Do not let her talk you into anything else.
2006-11-02 03:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋