i dated a girl for 5 years we broke up and then my ex- best friend started dating her i didnt think that was very respectable thats why he is an ex-best friend would you date your best friends ex?
2006-11-02 03:23:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No man, that's just wrong.
2006-11-02 03:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would be nice to see it as black and white and answer no, because it's unethical or whatever. But in reality, once you broke up with your girlfriend it's not about you anymore. Obviously your relationship wasn't meant to be, so you must move on and so should she. Maybe it's awkward and weird that she should hook up with your best friend(X), but turn it around. What if you were in his shoes and you were really attracted to a girl that was on the "no" list. Would you let something as trivial as who she dated in the past get between what could be a wonderful relationship?
I am the girl that ended up with the best friend of the guy I dated for 10 years. And I'm happier now than ever, we've been married for 6 years. And my x has moved on and is definitely happier without me. So you need to quit thinking for the moment and look ahead and work on what you really want in a relationship. And forgive your best friend(X) and do what you have to do to make the best of the situation. If you have harsh feelings toward your best friend, then you're just showing jealousy for your x-girlfriend. He didn't betray you, he was loyal to you while you and your x-girlfriend were together. He was strong and waited until your relationship was over. Even though it's hard, be supportive for them, but go on and center on yourself. Now you can find who you want.
2006-11-02 11:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you said he was your ex-best friend?! So what's the issue here? Are you just hurt that she would hook up with someone you used to be friends with? I would date my best friends ex if I knew she didn't have a problem with it AND he was the kind of guy I would date. As a general rule though I think that is one of those lines you shouldn't cross. Now in your situation I think that you don't have a right to be angry...He is no longer your best friend and she is no longer your gf. Get over it and move on.
2006-11-02 11:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I have a rule about dating a friends or ex friends ex lover its NO NO NO NO NO thats so wrong in my books, but some people do not care, and see something we did not, and have no respect for either there friend or ex friend!
2006-11-02 11:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never date my best friend's ex. Never! It's like one of those unwritten rules of friendship. I personally don't care if my friend dated the guy for only a week, I couldn't do it. To me, friendship is much more valuable than some guy. Your friend is totally in the wrong here. And so is your ex. I would never date any of my ex's friends. It's just wrong!
2006-11-02 11:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long ago you broke up and whether or not you were over her. Either way, as a real best friend, I'd check with you first to make sure it's cool. I did this once as a younger man and the result was that I lost my best friend - I've regretted it ever since. Sometimes, especially for younger men, sex and love tend to take priority over friendship and the feelings of others. Doesn't make it right, it's just the way it is. By the way, this usually happens with guys that have a low self esteem and are looking for a woman to make them feel better about themselves (yes, that was me, too).
2006-11-02 11:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think so because if you still have feelings then, he obviously wasn't a good friend to take them into consideration. I think he knew you would break the friendship because, why would you want to be around someone who was always going to be talking about the girl you were intimate with for 5 years? This puts her back in the picture if you were trying to move on.
2006-11-02 11:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a woman, I say why not! You broke up with her and that means she is free to go out with anyone she wants to go out
with. I'm thinking that you are not completely over her yet. Maybe
your Friend had wanted to go out with your ex. for a long time
but out of respect for you he did nothing about it. Why give a long
time Friend the boot. Good friends are hard to come by! Get over it .
2006-11-02 11:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by bernice l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a moral no-no in my eyes...like hooking up with you sibling's ex-spouse!! Now, if you had just briefly dated that might be another story but after 5 years, definately a not!
2006-11-02 11:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because I wouldnt want anyone of my friends to date my ex.
Thats stupi and selfish
2006-11-02 11:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by PrInCeSs P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i will not date my best friends ex.
2006-11-02 11:25:57 · answer #11 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋