It wasn't a horrible split at all - we still talk - we only really split coz i was moving back home across london, and we're both quite young to settle down as we both have things we want to achieve.
But is it bad to go and stay with him every now and then for a night or two?? Or am i just walking into trouble?
2006-11-02 03:21:12 · 22 answers · asked by brunette1706 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can keep your heart out of the situation and see it for what it is then I say there is no problem with spending the night. Go for it!
2006-11-02 03:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you're just walking into trouble. Talking to him and hanging out with him is ok...ending a relationship on good terms is not a bad thing, but staying a few nights with him during the week is. It will lead you to realize how much you really do like him, and then things will become difficult for the two of you. He may still believe that because you're coming over to stay a few nights a week, that you still like him and that there is still a chance the two of you might get back together. If this is how you feel, then wonderful, if not, then you're just sending him mix signals, and in the end, you'll complicate the friendship a lot more then it needs to be.
2006-11-02 11:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by angelchild688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If you think there is a chance you might get back together, maybe it's not so bad. However, if you know it will not work and you want to get over him, then of course it's not good. It sounds like the reason you are doing this might be because he is comfortable for you. It is kinda scary starting over. I just got out of a long term and it was and still is uncomfortable being single. I don't see or talk to my ex at all. Nothing. And certainly this is not because it was a bad split. Has nothing to do with that. You see, when people are involved and then decided to break up, often they go their separate ways because it is the only way to get over one another. It's not always that they hate each other and don't want to ever see each other again. It's just that to try to continue seeing each other in a different light (friends, just for sex, or whatever) is too difficult. But only you truly know if you're walking into trouble. That little feeling inside your chest is usually right.
2006-11-02 11:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by cagewalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're heading for trouble. I know cuz I've been there. By spending the odd night together every now and again you're never ever going to move on and get on with your lives. You'll just keep going back to each other every now and again but you won't be moving on. You need to either be together, or not. Its the only way. Why aren't you together anyway? Transport through London isn't that bad. I was in a similar situation with my boyfriend because I went to university. We'd still meet up occasionally and it caused nothing but problems when i loOK back even though at the time it felt ok to be doing that. I got jealous when I saw him with other girls and he was like "Well we're not together" and it made me feel like crap, he felt the same if I went out on a date. it was a total mess. In the end we cut ties completely but over the few months we didn't speak we realised our true feelings and got back together. That was 4 years ago no and we bought our first home last year.
2006-11-02 11:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think there is still a futrue then no you are not walking into trouble..but if you know for a fact that there is no future with him then yeah you are walking into trouble..U guys have been split for a while now..let it go...let him go...move on..get yourself a new man that you can go ands tay with for a night or too...both you and your ex need to move on..u are never going to find a relationship taht u both want to be in if you are there all the timea nd still sleeping with him...
2006-11-02 11:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We walk up a ladder to reach a new level but what happens when we step down the ladder? We end up on a level that we have stepped before. The only reason we step down a ladder is to get to the bottom. I suggest that you keep walking up the ladder step by step and see what each level has to offer. In other words unless you want to keep going where you have been I say stop taking one step up and 2 steps back. what you ywo had is all done don't waste time in the past when the future holds so much more for you!
2006-11-02 11:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by daniebond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble. Either be with him or don't be with him. But don't kid yourselves or lead one another on. On the otherhand if all you both want is a casual relationship then you're lucky, you've got the best of both worlds. Although sooner or later one of you will start to feel alot stronger than the other and then there will be problems...
Just be honest with each other.
2006-11-02 11:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by E=MC2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your walking into trouble... your giving him false hope for a relashionship. You need to stop staying at his place though. and get on with your life. I mean that is why you two split. if there was hope then you wouldnt have given up on the relashionship in the first place since. you really didnt have to since now your staying at his place now and again.
2006-11-02 11:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful here, you've entered what is known as the "Proverbal Minefield", if you still love him, that's fair enough, but just be careful you don't trap yourself in a love situation with him, it will be difficult to get out of and the proverbal minefield will explode in your face, which will bring up something you won't like.
By all means, stay with him if you like him, but just be careful abut what you do and say. That's all the advice I can give you!
2006-11-02 11:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just walking in to trouble and getting more emotionally attached. let it go. if its true love then youll both be back but not just for a night or two. just wait. time is the key to most things in life.
2006-11-02 11:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋