My girlfriend is pregnant, not ready to be married what do i do?

Question

I'm not ready to get married, my mum dont want her, she doesnt want to get it off. im not interested in having a baby now, not from her, what do i do?

Answer 1

I am gonna get some heat for this from the nonabortion idiots on this board but here is what u do. Get money for an abortion and force her to do it. Just tell her u dont want the baby and say u wont pay a cent of childsupport if she does have the baby. Cruel but it worked for me. If she still goes through with it make sure u talk to a lawyer about childsupport nonpayments. And by the way people 20 comments about how he should have thought about it before doing it aint gonna make him feel any better.

Answer 2

Don't marry her until you know your ready, U can still be a great father w/o being a husband.
As foriegn as the idea seems atm, you will like being a father. The first 18 months are hard, like being in charge of sanitation of a Hatian Jail. But once your little boy/girl's personality comes out, and she recongnizes U as Daddy and you become a strong source of her security, it's a role you'll never be able to live w/o. I am divorced and have joint custody. W/o my daughter there is no way I'd be the Man I am today, caring for a child, brings so much richness and tenderness to your life. It's more important than what you think you don't have time for, and no matter what age, your never ready. Suck it up bro, manhood is calling... What type of man you gonna be? Just remember noone can fill your role in life, if you don't do it no one will.

Answer 3

From now on use protection. I won't lecture you on that. All I can say is pay child support and be involved with your childs life.

I got pregnant in 1998, I got married, and then separted in the year 2001. I felt the only reason he married me was because I was pregant and that was the "right" thing to do. I held alot of resentment towards him. Funny thing is we got pregant on purpose. What in the world we were thinking, I don't know.

Don't get me wrong I love my child dearly but we were to young and didn't have much responsiblity at the time, until the baby came.

Even though you don't want to be with this girl, help her out by paying your child suport and being involved in the babys life. Try to be civil with eachother and don't get married just because it is the "right" thing to do. The resentment may end up in both you and the girl. Make sure the new mom to be gets her breaks from the child otherwise she will be tired and grouchy and will take it out on you if your not helping her out.

In the begining she may not want you to keep the child over night, but still offer and don't take offense. I didn't let my Dad baby sit my child until he was about 2 months old. I didn't think he could take care of my child, even though he raised me. Being tired and grouchy took over me and I finally let him watch my son, so I could have a break. I was ready to snap. My husband at the time wasn't around much to help because he worked alot of hours.

From now on use protection, babys are very expensive for young couples and for dads and moms who pay child support.

Answer 4

You should have thought of all that before having sex. Now you have to be a man and take responsibility for your child. Whether or not you marry, you are still the father therefore you have moral and financial obligations to the baby you so thoughtlessly created.
Your life as you've known it is over.

Answer 5

Well you should have protected yourself,but all is done so you have to be there for her,it doesn't matter if your mom wants her and whether you want a baby with or with out her one is one the way,and your part of this conception,so be a man and be there for her.It is not ease for her either,have you thought about her feelings,how lonely she is,the father of her child not being reasonable for his part of the pregnancy.Abortion is not the answer just hold her hand and protect her and help her through this difficult period in her and your life,be each other guidance.

Answer 6

Well guess what your alittle to late to think about that now if she is pregnant u don't have to get married to have a kid with someone trust me i have 3 and i wasn't married when i had my first one. Just don't up and leave her u need to just take responsilbity for your actions and take care of this baby u will never regret it in the long run trust me kids are the most precious children in the world

Answer 7

You take responsibility. You support her and the baby. You don't have to marry her to support her and the child. But you should always be there for that child. Ready? When is anyone really ready. If you're not ready.... then you shouldn't have done the deed!

Answer 8

You've already done it! Too many men like you get their girlfriends into trouble then disown them. I hope you realise that you are part of what is the matter with this Country. You'll shirk your responsibilities and the taxpayer will be footing the bill. I hope not. I hope the CSA make you pay for your mistake 'cos I certainly don't want to. You've had your fun, now face the consequences.

Answer 9

Big Mistake!
too late now,you shouldve used something call protection...
ever heard that before??!
your not ready,but just imagine how your girlfriend feels,support her as much as you can,thats the only thing you should do.
Also,your mum has no power in these kind of situations, the kid is hers and yours,your mum cant come between that.

Good luck though!

Answer 10

It takes two and you were a part of it. Be a man and handle your responsibilities. You should have thought about the consequences before you got busy. You do not have to marry her. But you should do the right thing, and support the baby. In regards to your mom. If you are grown, it is none of your mom's business.