What should I do? This is very important..PLease answer me...?

Question

My nine year old sister has always had trouble with touching herself and she is always smelling her fingers.I know disgusting.IM 20 years old and live on my own married with two little girls that are 3 and 1. So last night I was at my mothers house and ate dinner.After we came home, I asked my little girl if she wanted to get in the bath tub with me. We started the bath and as we was getting in I pulled down her panties and I smelt the worst smell..I knew in my heart what it was.I said Maddie why do you stink? She said my little sisters name and said *c**l* did it. She did it like this and maddie touched herself. She was red and inflamed down there. I took her a bath, called my mom and started crying. I said mom i dont want you to be mad at me but i have to tell you i think that *a**y is dooing something to my baby,....My mom said that she thinks we should not be around each other and madisson is 3 and is probably lying.What do i do? She is getting ready to go to the doctor? But still

Answer 1

Three year olds don't lie about things like that!!
I would say take her to the doctor asap and tell him what you believe happened and the sisters history and then you need to decide if you can stay away from mom's maybe forever or whether you feel like you need to notify someone from social services, because this child is going to have to get help or she may grow up and do the same thing to the wrong kid and that kid will tell her parents and then your family could get turned into social services and prosecuted. She needs professional help and she won't get it if everyone keeps brushing it under the rug and pretending that it didn't happen or that she will outgrow it.
This could have a devastating future effect on your small child for years to come. You had better deal with it now...family or not.

Answer 2

Your mom needs a reality check. Your little sister is being molested or has been molested by someone. I wouldn`t say anything to your little sister, as she is already traumatized by what has happened. Talk stern to you mother and tell her your baby sister needs help. This is why a child starts behaving like this. Your mother probably doesn`t understand why she has been touching herself, thinking maybe this is normal. The man across the street from us molested my daughter, and she started touching herself, and she was 8 years old. I had to take her to the doctor because she had the same problem that you are describing about your daughter being red and having a bad smell. I didn`t know what had happened to her, and I found out from the doctor when I took her to be examined. I thought maybe she was having an allergy to the soap we were using and it was irritating her. Take your little daughter to a doctor as they can get a yeast infection from the molesting. Have the doctor to give you a copy of the exam report to give to your mother as proof that something did happen. Your 3 year old daughter is too young to make something up like this. As for you and what should you do? When you take your mother the doctor`s report, tell her your sister needs help. Unless your mom is willing to admit something has happened to her, then there is nothing you can do, so protect your little girl, and try to get help for your sister. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Tell your mom that you are going to report her to CPS if she doesn`t take your sister to the doctor to see if she has been violated in some way.

Answer 3

Well I would definately not leave your little girl alone with your sister for starters. Talk to her in a gentle way,to get through to her that it is wrong for someone to touch her there. You can get the point across to her even at that age. I think your Mom is being very ignorant and oblivious to what is going on. Now you said what your sister does to herself, you can damn straight bet that your Mom knows of this happening too! Is there others in your sisters home that might be interfering with her in this manner? I think you should see about your sister getting help too,,,,sure don't sound like your Mom will do it for her! Good Luck and don't let this one pass by! You sound like a really good Mom!

Answer 4

You have to do whatever you can to protect your children even if that means making your mother mad. A 3 year old child is not going to lie about being touched down there she does not have any clue that it is wrong. I myself would be very angry that my mom would suggest that my 3 yr old is lying about something like that. Get her checked out and ask the doctor what he suggest you do in this situation. I would take her advice as far as you not being around each other. Your mom is going to protect your sister over your daughter so you need to be protecting her so it does not happen again. Hopefully she is young enough that she forgets that it happened so she is not traumatized.

Answer 5

First of all, is someone doing something to your little sister? If she's been abused or molested this is probably why she's doing it. That person needs to be put away locked up. You need to take you daughter to the doctor to examine her. I don't know if the dr. will question you, but I'm sure he/she will. Tell him/her what happened. They will ask you why your little sister is doing that. I don't think your 3 yo. is lying. She is probably not even capable of doing anything like that on herself. Be careful and it's best to not leave your children around your little sister until something has been figured out. I hope everything turns out okay.

Answer 6

Well I know you should definately go to counseling about it, because this is sexual abuse and although you love your little sister she might have a really bad problem when she gets older that can get her into a lot of trouble. Its best to keep them away from each other. Parent denial is also normal. It sounds like you are the only normal one. Im sorry to hear. You should also take your daughter to the doctor to get her checked for anything. If you younger sister is sexually active there is a chance for transmitting STD's as well.

Answer 7

Find out first what the doctor says and if he/she can confirm the contact then make sure your sister never is alone with her again. Also I would say something to her. She understands at 9 she is doing something wrong. Your mother should open her eyes. If you are aware of it your mother must be as well just in denial. You have to do what is best for your children. Good luck and I hope your daughter is ok.

Answer 8

you need to find out for sure what happen and if it is what you suspect then you will have to set your mother down an make her listen. a 9 yr old sister is old enough to know that inappropriate touching is not acceptable may be some thing is going on with her your sister and needs to be found out don't stay away from your sister and mother because this will only add to the problem and you all need to fix it

Answer 9

Take her to the Dr., and if your Mom wants to say that a 3 year old is lying about stuff she has no way of knowing anything about, then you are best to stay away from her. You may want to tell her that you sister needs help, after that you have to do what is best for your kids.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to say this, and I know it will cause a family rift, but you need to call the police.
I wouldn't be surprised if someone is messing with your sister and she is acting out on your baby. The authorities will help you find proper therapy for both your child and your sister so that the cycle does not continue.
Be prepared for some serious chill in your family against you. This is a touchy situation and feeling will be hurt, but you need to protect your child and your sister needs serious help.