By her own admission, she is not really close to anyone, inc. her friends and never has been. But anyways, the "closer" we get, the more distant she gets. I have asked her what's going on before, and she said all her relationships go like this, that she thinks about me every day, she wants me but worries b/c she wants to want us but says it's like she is afraid to let herself just be happy. So, is she scared, psycho, or done and trying to bow out quietly?
2006-11-02 02:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's got some serious emotional scars, probably something that happened to her as a child that she hasn't coped with. It prevents her from getting too close to others for fear of being hurt or abandoned, so she detaches before she gets attached. It's great that you care about her, but if she's not ready to face her pain and work through it there's not much you can do to help. This is something she has to do herself. Tell her that and that you're willing to help, but if she's not willing then you need to restrict this relationship to that of an acquaintance and not get emotionally involved.
2006-11-02 02:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is probably scared to death of getting hurt. She probably had a pretty though childhood and doesn't know how to get close to people or is scared that when she does they will leave. She probably needs some counseling to deal with it.
2006-11-02 10:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she may be scared to me...I'm the same way..i start to get close to people ..then they just leave..or diss me..so i can see where shes coming from..she might be scared of the same thing happening with you. she wants to be close to you but keep you at the same time..so she may be opening up to you then not because shes afraid shes already gone to far...i would just let her take her time and let her know that your going to be there for her..(if you are)..try just to make her comfortable and let her know she can trust you..
2006-11-02 10:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one, cause your really giving me one convo you had with her and no background, good luck if i were to bsae it soley off this convo it sounds like she has had something happen to her in a previous relationship, and doesn't want to let go of her guard because once the guard is down then you might hurt her and she has what we like to call a really thick wall up right now....
2006-11-02 10:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my ex, the closer she gets to you the more she is scared that your going to leave her. I dated a girl like that and after a year or so she finially opened up. If your in it for the long haul then go for it but my ex is an ex for a reason. She was psyco. If you want to know the signs the go to www.askmen.com and search for signs your gf is psyco.
2006-11-02 10:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by john 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SHE SOUNDS LIKE ME (i can say this to you 'cause i don't know you)I DO THE SAME THING I WANT SOMEONE BUT,NEVER CLOSE THE DEAL!I CAN GET "CLOSE"THEN SOMETHING WILL MAKE ME PULL BACK IT'S MORE THAN PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE,IS SHE BI POLAR?DOES SHE SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION?IS HER FAMILY ROOTED DEEPLY IN "CHRISTIANITY"? SHE PROBABLY HEARS ALOT OF "VOICES" IN HER HEAD TELLING HER WHAT TO DO& SHE HAS'NT BEEN ABLE TO TELL THEM TO "SHUT UP"!and she is all of the things you mentioned.are you willing to stick it out or move on...
2006-11-02 10:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone has hurt her in a relationship and she is afraid you will do the same.
2006-11-02 10:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋