I want him 2 fall in love with me b4 we get in2 anything really physical.1night I took it too far.it was his first kiss,it was a very passionate make out,4 like 30 mins maybe.there was touching and rubbing but clothes stayed on. I told him I wasn't gonna have sex with him and he agreed that was a good idea. well he's my ex now but I think he got blue balls. I need 2 learn 2 not get so excited easily.I want to kiss him softly.not hand jobs,not head.no kind of sex.I just want affection and kissing. so if I kiss him gently and softly and slowly,will that still give him blue balls? I don't wanna torture or hurt him but I don't wanna hurt or tease him either. sorry I've only been in one real relationship.I want 2 get back 2gether wit him and take it slow.
2006-11-02 02:31:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he'll be 22 this month, I turned 24 a month and a half ago
2006-11-02 02:32:23 · update #1
Dont use blue paint....
your too hung up on the physical. Just live with integrity and high morals the rest will be OK.
2006-11-02 02:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no real thing as blue balls, its just a term used to describe the full feeling a man has when he does not ejaculate after stimulation and there are plenty of things you can do. If your not ready to have sex you could do mutual masturbation where you watch each other touch yourselves, you could finish him with your hand, although he would probably prefer the mouth. Did he break up with you because he is ready for sex and your not?
2006-11-02 10:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as blue balls. It is a myth. The only way a guy is getting blue balls is if you kick him in his d*ck or nut sack. Learn to take things slow. Instead of kissing and hugging and all that, that you know is going to lead to wanting sex...Watch a movie or simply get up and leave.
If the guy left you because you aint wanna give up the goods then its GOOD that he left.
2006-11-02 10:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by PrInCeSs P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's no such thing as "blue balls". If you don't want to get physical, then don't engage in activities that look as though you do. A little light kissing is okay, but if you continue and get him aroused and thinking that you want more, of course he's going to get frustrated if you stop abruptly.
As you become more sexually experienced, you will find out that it can be uncomfortable for a woman too to become aroused with no outlet. It's a pretty mean and childish thing to do. If you don't want to engage in sex then don't tease as though you do!
2006-11-02 10:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a make out session. If he can't control his hormones and has a b*ner than wooptie doo, ey? Kissing stimulates and can lead to anything but if he can't stop himself from being a little hard than he'll just keep suffering, either that or he can do himself a favor before or after.
2006-11-02 10:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blue balls is a myth unless you are actually stimulating his penis to a lot of excitement and then just stopping. He's gonna get horny and he's going to get boners possibly 20 times a day! Boners won't cause him discomfort. Sexual stimulation with no ejaculation can. So if you're just kissing him and not rubbing on him...it's not you're fault.
2006-11-02 10:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There not really much you can do for that..its mainly based on what the guy is thinking..also his SPOTS. All i really have to do is kiss my b/f and i can easily turn him on. But the slower you kiss him wont make a difference, cuz that makes it more passionate..But if you kiss him at a fatser pace, that speeds things up and gets him all crazy, and wanting it now..but like i said, its not really your fault!
2006-11-02 10:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Beatty's♥Girl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have sex with him but use protection!I that will make the blue balls go away. I would be MAD to you get him all worked up and then give him NOTHING!
SEX can make it all better and just use PROTECTION no matter what!
Good luck
Guy's don't like to kiss and be all cudly unless they know they're gonna get something in return!
2006-11-02 10:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u gona kis him sofely then u gona get his mind going and wondering so dont kiss him in that matter unless u plan to go all the way. but if u dont just give him a peck and a hug and went u are then kisss him like crazy cause a man has feeling also
2006-11-02 10:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by izzo808 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are worth anything then blue balls arent too bad. It doesnt last forever. If you break up with him again though and have given blue balls again, your being mean.
2006-11-02 10:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by rosie f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋