My bf grew up around lesbos, therefore he acts like a girl.People are being really annoying telling me that him dating me is just a coverup for his being gay. I love him, and I don't want to break up with him. but sometimes I want to blow up into people's faces.His last gf was a ***** and broke up with him because of the rumors. I don't want to be like her, and I'm not gonna listen to the rumors. But I still can't deal with it. HELP!!
2006-11-02 02:27:33 · 25 answers · asked by looking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
silly big man - totaly wrong. The fact your man was bought up around ppl that find the same sex attractive gives him more reason to feel that this way is ok if he was to feel attracted to the same sex.. therefore if he feels gay in any way he has no reason not to show it. But i dont think he is, he wouldnt be capable of having the relationship with you if this is so. listen to your man, talk to him and im sure that you are gonna be just fine hun.
Where the rumours are concerned - you are doing the right thing by holding your head up high and sticking a finger up to them.. shows strength and maturity.
Good luck and take care.
2006-11-02 02:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by happyglitterthatrocks 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can deal with whatever you put your mind to. If you really love this bf of yours, then you could put a stop to these rumors. Start a rumor of your own for instants. Say something like, write a letter, to a friend. ANY friend (imaginary person) and talk about how wonderful he was when the two of you were kissing and hugging eachother, and how if he is GAY, then you have to be the QUEEN of ENGLAND!!!! No gay guy could ever think to kiss a woman that good!!!! And then go into how you and him discussed the possibilities of a *promise ring*!! That you are so excited that he loves you as much as you love him!! Tell this imaginary friend, about the rumors around school and how *JEALOUS* (yes jealous) all the other girls are because you have him and they want him. Then mention a popular boys name and say how you were told by someone that he had the biggest crush on you and is jealous of your bf because you think he is scum and want to be only with your boyfriend! Now, make sure you put this *fake* letter in a place where it is sure to be found by one of the BIGGEST gossipers in your school or class. You could drop it in the girls bathroom if you want to and make sure that the outside folded part facing up has "from you"........ they will be so sure to read it. If that doesn't work. Go to your school councilor and have a chit chat with her or him about what is going on and put a stop to it that way. But If I were you and I loved this guy, I wouldn't give these others kids the time of day!! I would look at it as it is. They are ALL jealous, and thats it. YOU have a catch, and they are being rude and trying to distroy someone that they want but won't have anything to do with any of them. YOUR bf is SMART, not gay. Blessed be...........
2006-11-02 02:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is ignore the rumors and prove them wrong. Love is not an easy thing all the time. It has it ups and downs, dips in roads, rocky roads to travel and some times great big boulders that will try and block your path. If your love is strong enough you can over come all of these interferences. It takes strength and perseverance. I feel for your b/f just think how he must feel inside with the way people are humiliating him. Stand by your man and show him your love. You don't need to explain anything to any one. You will be talking to closed ears anyway. These people have made up their minds. As I said, you will have to prove to them by showing them they are wrong. Your b/f will love you all the more and your relationship will grow stronger and stronger with each challenge you have to face. Good luck to both of you.
2006-11-02 02:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would ignore the rumours. If your boyfriend is gay then he wouldnt be going out with you. How does he react when people say that ? Just because a man is sensitive and kind doesnt make him gay. Stand tall, remember what made you love him in the first place and remember that you are both better than all these other twits who have to much time on their hands and to big a mouth to keep it shut. Good luck.
2006-11-02 02:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The longer you go out with him for, the more people will start to accept you as a couple.
I have been told by almost everyone I meet that I come across as "a bit gay", but I usually just make a joke out of it. I know myself well enough to know that although I can sound camp and can be a bit flambouyant on the dance floor, I only fancy women!
What's important is how YOU get on with your boyfriend, and your friends will come round in the end. If they don't, they ain't your friends!
Everyone is a bit different; some of us blokes are macho, some are dull, some are intelligent, some are strong, some are emotional, some are camp. Enjoy your man for who he is, and remember his detractors are probably not as happy as you two.
2006-11-02 02:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Andy H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know he's not, ignore everyone else. If they keep on at you, you could tell them to mind their own ******* business, it's not their b.f so how would they know? I bet most of them probably don't even realise how much it's bugging you, it's might just be an ongoing joke that's gotten out of hand (and if it's meant in the spirit of fun, not as a serious rumour, don't let it bother you). But what you shouldn't do is make your b.f change his entire personality to appease the rumour-mongers. If his behaviour is such a big part of him, are you sure you'd even be attracted to him anymore if he went all dull and macho? I know it's difficult but you'll regret it if you give into the bitchers.
Ask them if they're so concerned because they want to snap him up themselves, this should shut some of them up!
2006-11-02 02:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dealing with the rumours for this long and you love him i carnt see any reason to break up. He must have acted gay around you when you first met him it never bothered you did it. There just rumours you know there not true an so does he. Don't you have the dream boyfriend a gay lad who is actually straight??
2006-11-02 02:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Deano 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to figure out if he is gay or not. He may be bi. Don't blow up in anyone's face, if the rumors are false, you will make them look true. You don't have to defend him to anyone. Rumors are the products of too much time wasted on idle thoughts, and boredom coupled with a desire for drama.
2006-11-02 02:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl maybe it's true and maybe not. Just stick with him and make sure that he is where you want to be. If you can stick through the rumors then you are obviously loyal. F rumors...Unless he himself tells you he is gay...it is exactly what it says A RUMOR.
Have you ever tried asking him and telling him about the rumors?
Good luck and stick strong
2006-11-02 02:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by PrInCeSs P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How does he act gay? Is it the way he talks or the way he acts? If that is all don't worry about what people say. However, if he is putting on make up, cross dressing or looking at (or feeling on) other men you may have a problem.
2006-11-02 02:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋