I broke up with her and she says "We are together" I say no we are not, She says "YES WE ARE" I told her i was going to hang out with my guy friend and she fipped and said that i had to talk to her on the phone the entire time, shes acting crazy. She says she loves me and cant let me go, but i cant be with her mostly of her getting into a bed with another man. I dont know what to do, the more i say no that i wont be with her the more she asks, and the more determined she is to be with me, its crazy! how do you deal with a person like this?
2006-11-02 02:20:39 · 33 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant move or change my number
2006-11-02 02:23:56 · update #1
i cant be mean to her and i dont think i can ignore her, maybe i can just act crazy myself
2006-11-02 02:31:36 · update #2
It's not crazy, and I've heard of many situations like this. You shouldn't overreact... Take a deep breath, calm down, and never ever talk to her again. If you happen to pick up the phone and find out its her, quickly hang up. I know it's rude and it may be painful for a while, but its a better way to move on than to keep arguing with her about whether you two are together or not.
2006-11-03 01:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by DN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are seeing someone else and stop taking her calls. If she is calling your home phone...you can temporarilly change your number for 2 weeks at no charge and at the end of the 2 weeks it will go back to your old number. Usually this is enough time for someone to give up and think you either disconnected you phone or changed the number permenatly.
Have a friend (girl) answer your phone and tell her not to call again......
Last resort...threaten her with a restraining order.
Good Luck...be firm and don't lead her on....just tell her point blank......at this point, I dont think anything else will work.
2006-11-02 02:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This made me laugh lol. Sounds like me. My boyfriend said we couldn't be together anymore. I was pissed and everytime he said we weren't together I would say "yes we are" and thene he would say "well then act like it"...We still together. I have never gotten in the bed with another man though. That is ridiculous. Block her calls if you know ya'll are through for good and there is no saving the relationship.
But take time to think about it...If you really wanted it over...Then why are you answering the phone? It aint that hard to decline someones call.
Be real with yourself.
2006-11-02 02:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by PrInCeSs P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say that she cheated on you. The best way to get rid of someone crazy is to make them walk away. I mean don't dog her out or anything but, see other people. Act as if you not in a relationship, because your not, she is. Keep explaining it to her and if that doesn't work. Get a big girl to kick her *** until she gets it. Just kidding!! If it goes to far get a restraining order.
2006-11-02 02:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by much2deep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay away from you or you'll file a restraining order. And, honestly, if she's really acting this crazy, you might want to go ahead and do that - that way if she does come after you in a scary way, you can have the cops arrest her on the spot for violating the order...if you don't have one in place, they probably wouldn't do anything unless she physically assaulted you...or worse.
2006-11-02 02:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alas another psychobabe in the mix. All you can do is get a restraining order short of severe 'fatal attraction' tactics. She is having problems taking 'NO' for an answer. You are appearing to be the only fish in her sea.
A firm stance is indicated -- either you want to be bothered or you don't. You need to have a frank and honest confrontation.
2006-11-02 02:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is forbidden is always wanted....
sweetie when you are rejecting her you are giving her a motivation to ask about you and chase you like a crazy cow....
try it your self if you are in love with a girl and she is rejecting you no matter how you try to tell her and wanna be with her...every time she rejects you or turns you down it would always motivate you to chase her and stick to her...
break the cycle of hide and seek that is going on with your crazy EX...
ask her to go out with her and set the place away from your house or any other place that you have dated in...say in a park or anywhere..( NOT A BEDROOM!)
sit and talk to her honestly and look her in the eyes...first try to show her how good she are and all the good things in her ( we women like to be told that we are the best )
then explain to her clearly the bad things and that both of you are not ready for such a relationship and that you have someone else in mind .... avoid asking her to stop chasing you because again it would motivate her to do the opposite....
2006-11-02 02:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isnt much that you can do, because she obviouly wont leave you alone no matter what.. If its that serious then turn her in for harrasment and stalking.. you can get a restraining order against her. I dont know if your willing to push it to that limit, but its alot better than being bothered about stuff you dont want! Good luck and let me know how it goes!!
2006-11-02 02:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Beatty's♥Girl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely cut off contact with her. Change your number. Avoid the areas you know she hangs out in because she will probably make a scene. If she does something illegal, like threatening you, go to the cops. She sounds nuts!
2006-11-02 02:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want nothing more to do with her, not to contact you, and any further contact will be harassment. She'll probably leave you a voice mail or text message at some point that is threatening or harassing and you should get the cops to tell her to stay away.
2006-11-02 02:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Darkwraith83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋