me and my boy friend have been dating for a while but however my sister and his aunt are best friends (however they are mad at each othe right now) they dont want us dating but i love him and he loves me...should we go against our older family members and continue dating or should we break what we have to make them happy? i really dont wanta loose him and i also dont wanta disapoint my family what do i ******* do!...uh this him texting me now gotta go!
2006-11-02 02:14:17 · 24 answers · asked by alwayslovely3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your sis and his aunt have beef on each other. That's their problem, not yours nor your bf.
It's unfair for them to put you and your bf in a difficult situation when you both didn't do anything wrong but love each other.
I say continue on dating and be happy with your boy. Soon enough your sis and his aunt will cool off.
It's your life. Live your life how you want it. Don't let others make you live your life how they want it to.
2006-11-02 02:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by JenGen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to tell the sister and the aunt to leave the two of you out of their argument. That's all it is honey, and eventually they are going to work out their issues, but if you break up, where is that going to leave you after all is said and done? I mean besides sad and lonely. They aren't going to want to hear it, but they NEED to. It's time for them to grow up and handle their own problems without hitting each other where it hurts. Often times our relatives like to get involved in our lives when they feel the situation doesn't suit them. Your sister is mad at his aunt and therefore she wants to take it out on him, same with the aunt being mad at your sister and wanting to punish you. They both could use a huge lesson in maturity.
I know it seems like so much trouble right now, but a week from now, this isn't even going to be an issue. Don't worry so much, things like this have a way of working themselves out....especially if it's meant to be.
2006-11-02 02:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break up with him because of your family members that's not a good idea-- it will just cause more trouble in the future, but if you go against your family they may hold it against you and make your life miserable.
I suggest that you continue to see him, but not as much. Try to keep things sort of covert until the situation between your sister and his aunt gets straightened out.
2006-11-02 02:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett_156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're under-age (in which case be careful and remember that they do know more than you, although they probably don't know him), your relationships are YOUR business. If you break up with him, it needs to be YOUR decision, not theirs. Your family should love you no matter who you keep in your life, so they can get over what ever issues they have and let you make your own choices... and mistakes if that's the case, and victories if it's not.
2006-11-02 02:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your happy, don't worry or think bout what other people think, even your family. Eventually they'll realize that yall are in love and will learn to deal with it because my family was like that towards my b/f because of our age difference. They love him a few months later now! good luck!
2006-11-02 02:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. You have to do what you want to do because you are the only person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with, not your sister or your boyfriend's aunt.
2006-11-02 02:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffery B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sis and his aunt weren't mad at each other right now, things would be okay, right? So no, don't break it off because they will wind up as friends again and you and your boyfriend will have broken off for nothing. Don't make their problems YOUR problems...
2006-11-02 02:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me i will find my b/f and sit down talk carefully wit ur sis n his aunty to explain to then u both love each other very well and say u can promise them to not make them disapoint if there still the same dun let both dating give some time to show them tat u both love each other well ( u can say this love is both of us i hope i u can let me choice myself )
2006-11-02 02:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by kelvin y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say keep seeing him. The disagreement between the elders is their problem and they shouldn't be trying to inject that problem into your relationship with your bf. Tell your elders to grow up and deal with their own problems and leave the two of you out of it. If you stand up to them now, they'll know for the rest of their lives that they can't bully you around.
2006-11-02 02:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want. They are your family, they want you to be happy. Maybe staying with him will show them that whatever their problems are, they can't affect your relationship with the person you love. Telling them that it is hurting you could make them lighten up and stop being childish.
2006-11-02 02:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Darkwraith83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋