I was my ex's first g/f.we might get back together. 1 night we had our first kiss(well his first one,our first together).well it was passionate kissing,followed by touching,I rubbed him down there for a minute or so which really worked him up,like breathing heavy,almost scared lol.(he's 22 now,I'm 24) this happened 9 months ago.we kept our clothes on.it eventually stopped and I let him know I wasn't gonna have sex with him. but then I straddled him and was kissing him and he lightly dry humped me.then we watched more of a movie.I could tell he was uptight.I asked him if he was ok,he said he didn't know. in the car ride home he was spazing out saying he doesn't know what he's doing/he's never done this b4 and his mind was racing a mile a minute. did he get blue balls?Will he get them again if we kiss gently/softly?what can I do 2 make it better 4 him without having sex?
2006-11-02 02:08:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not ready for sex...don't do it and stop worrying about his blue balls. He can go home and take care of himself. Don't let him make you feel bad and pressure you into anything that you do not want to do. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 02:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all that is teasing... technically foreplay... And if you don't want to give him blue balls you can't be messing with him like that if you're not gonna have sex. That's gonna get you into trouble. I know girls that got themselves into trouble by "teasing". So just hug and kiss without the touching and grinding and groping. There's no way getting around it if you don't have sex honey unless you're gonna give him oral or a hand job. But if you keep on teasing him there's gonna be a girl that won't and will go all of the way. I hate to tell you that but it is the truth. And if you don't know what blue balls is, it's a build up of let's say, pressure... you know when you shake a can of soda... you build up all that pressure with no wher eto release... until you pop the top... and if that pressure isn't released, it gives their penis or scrotum an discomforting feeling of swelling and pressure, which is the blood rushing down... So you either need to give it up(giving up), or GIVE IT UP.
2006-11-02 10:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think a bl*w job would help, or maybe just giving him a full body rub down, because that way he gets some intimacy, and you get to give him some comfort. Otherwise... why not just help him out, have sex with the poor guy, he sounds worth it, isn't he?
2006-11-02 10:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by EnglishKitty 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no blue balls but man what a tease to get on him and dry hump him..what were you hoping to accomplish...you left him frustrated...and wanting to finish the deed...
If you don't plan on finishing the deed...don't strattle him...that does not help matters.... his mind is racing cause he needs to finish what was started....
Don't start what you don't intend to finish with men and sex...it's frustrating to get all hard and wanting sex....and then to just have to live with it...
good luck..be well..
oh and By the way...why not sleep with him...??? sex is so awesome....and why wait...U could be in an accident and get paralized and never get to feel what sex is like....
Live for today....and enjoy it too....it's a short journey on your destination to life....
2006-11-02 10:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ummm...i just did that this weekend lol well last weekend but yeah you gotta get him off give him a bj that'll hold him over...
2006-11-02 10:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by KaKes 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what are blue balls?
2006-11-02 10:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by jimi 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give him a handjob.
2006-11-02 10:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by quack like a duck 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋