Am I being self-centered?

Question

I've been seeing this guy for over two months. We've only been out once because of my busy school schedule. He's also busy juggling three positions (I recently found out he carries three cell phones, two of which were issued to him by his job(s) and the third is his own personal cell phone.) We talk as often as possible and text each other little messages during the day to let the other know we're thinking of them. But sometimes, when I text him back, he doesn't respond. I noticed it in the beginning but didn't think much of it. Now it's getting annoying because I feel ignored. I know that he hasn't lost interest in me and this is probably due to his hectic work schedule. But I feel like a guy shouldn't do that, especially so early on. Am I being too demanding or self-centered? Should I mention it or just let it go?

Answer 1

You're being a little dramatic. I mean come on it's a damn text message!!! Now if he stops talking to you and stops hanging out with you then get upset. I know you want to get a response, but calm down a little and realize that he is busy. I mean the man has THREE jobs. Be thankful he has time for you at all!

I dont think you have anything to worry about. Good luck with your relationship! :-)

Answer 2

It really bothers you, so you should bring it up. You might find that it's his hectic work schedule, as you suspect, but without the two of you actually discussing it, you'll never know for sure, and he'll never know how his ignoring your messages makes you feel. He might not be able to communicate any more than he does because of his work schedule, but he should be able to let you know that he is still thinking of you, maybe a good time during the day when he really can respond, or that indeed he can't. What you really need is his assurance that you are as important to him as he is to you. Tell him that, tell him how it makes you feel. And make sure that you don't insist he answer your messages always, if he really is scrambling between his work schedule and really can't respond. That's too much pressure to put on your relationship, and will break it. Just let him know that you need him to find a way to make you feel important in his busy schedule too.

Answer 3

He's probably just busy that's all I wouldn't worry about it. Your not being self centered or demanding your just worried and that's o.k to worry just let him know that you feel a little ignored and things should be alright. Ask him why he hasn't replied to your texts. You should mention it because if you don't you probably still going to worry, but he's probably just really busy. I mean he has 3 jobs. Good Luck!

Answer 4

When you say you have only been "out" once, do you mean that you have only actually seen each other once and all your other contact has been via text and phone?

If so, his interest level has probably dropped. If you want to keep him, find a way to see him more often.

Answer 5

You did say he is working 3 jobs. Get over it and get a LIFE. I don't think you are being self centered more like INSECURE AND CHILDISH.

Answer 6

Calm down, he is just way to busy, you said that he still talks to you, be patient, he has a busy life, and you should understand that.

Answer 7

Metion it.B/c he won't kno unless u tell him.&& Men...In general hate when Women have things on there mind 2 say...&& dun't come out && tell them.If he gives u a bad/suspicious answer...Let him go...

Answer 8

I think you should let it go cause he kind of busy too. Dont you think

Answer 9

oh get over it. so he doesnt reply to your texts? big deal.

Answer 10

just let it go.