i know this girl that has ahrd time meeting a guy. it seem like everybody she meet is rude and have no morals and very young and stuiped, but she did meet this guy whom is cool respestable to her kids and is also good to her, but the thing is he is married but he claims that he love her and by far he is the only man that is good for her, but he do have that hang up, so ladies my ? is would u settle for love in that matter?
2006-11-02 01:55:32 · 23 answers · asked by izzo808 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should keep looking. With a married man, she'll never come first, never have a chance to actually be together 100% with him. She's probably very tempted, but if he doesn't leave his wife, then she needs to move on and find someone who will respect her by giving their all to her.
2006-11-02 01:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mary C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not. The man said vows to someone else, he should not be there with her. She should not be *allowing* him to be there with her and her children. If he doesn't love his *wife*, then he needs to get a divorce before this girl you know, has anything *relationship* wise to do with him. Why aren't you with her? Are you a guy? She should not be doing this. If she was the wife, she would be horrified to find out what her husband was doing. She would feel betrayed, disrespected, unappreciated, and taken for granted. Your friend, this girl, really needs to look at the shoe on her own foot, and put a stop to this now. No matter what. She can find a good man that is not rude, and mean to her. She just has to be patient, enjoy her life with her kids, family and friends, and love will find her. Blessed be.
2006-11-02 10:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm like this woman, except I haven't any kids yet. But I always attract men who are immature, and I definitely use to attract men with no morals who treated me badly. I realized it was because of what I looked for in a guy. Tell her to try looking at some of the guys she wouldn't normally consider, and that will change things in a way she wouldn't expect. Don't be with the married guy, tell him he can come around again when he has a divorce certificate, after all, she has her kids to think about. And with her being alone and missing that in her life, they have enough reasons to worry about her, and kids do worry about their mom. Even when they seem to young to, they udnerstand more than you'd think.
2006-11-02 10:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by EnglishKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO.
"the guy"...needs to be divorced FIRST, then he can pursue other women. A guy like that is a dog pure and simple. That's just going from bad to worse. Words mean nothing. Someone who is married and instead of working on his marriage (or if all else fails..working on ending it)...is working on telling pretty WORDs to some "girl" because he knows she is having a hard time meeting a guy. Well the guy you mentioned is no prize..not for her or his wife.
2006-11-02 10:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way around it he is MARRIED. There is heartache ahead. This guy is no different than the others he is a cheater instead of rude or young.Your friend seems to find only losers maybe it time to to ask her why she is choosing the same type of men. Someone told me once if your not happy with the pond your fishing from find a new one.
2006-11-02 10:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how he can respect her kids when he is a married man that is cheating on his wife, and if that is the only good man for her--god help her! A man like that is worthless and time will show all the pain this is gonna cause her and her kids. Better to end it now before it is to late.
2006-11-02 09:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! What happened to the commitment he made that other woman? That man is taken! What could this man possibly offer me if he is committed to another woman and what makes me think that if i got with this man just b/c he treats me good that he wouldn't do to me what he just did to his wife? That is called denial and ignorance! That hang up is no hang up...it was a vow he made to another woman to honor her and love her for the rest of his life and I know marriage doesn't always work out for whatever reasons (infidelity is one) but just b/c you no longer care for your spouse doesn't mean you can just up and go and find someone else and start a relationship.
Usually marrried men seek out women who may be insecure or have weaknesses so he can push is way into her life with flattery and promises when in actuality she's an easy target! My ex husband cheated on me and when I got around to talking with the "other woman" she enjoyed playing this role and who cared about my marriage b/c he loved her now. Needless to say their relationship didn't last but here's the thing...I am a good woman and I could never cause the type of pain to another woman that that woman (and my ex too) caused me!
People are so selfish nowadays...only thinking of themselves. So he treats your friend decent compared to the many other men she's been with but what about the way he is treating his wife? Does that not mean anything in anyone's eyes? If he really loved your friend he wouldn't disrespect her by making her play the "other woman" role b/c im assuming she can't contact the wife and that he hasn't told his wife about his new love! And think about it...if he's not making the steps to discontinue his marriage with his wife then what are his true intentions? If he loved your friend and wanted to make it work with her...then a real man would leave your friend, have no direct contact with her until he has handled the situation with his wife and is no longer committed to her.
I would never settle for a married man! He's not mine and I can't help but think about how he is treating his wife. No matter how nice he may be to your friend he's wrong for his behavior! I know this may not be the answer you were looking for but it's time we start honoring other's commitments and holding them to that regard! I want your friend to find someone who will treat her right but to settle for a married man is wrong and will just hurt her in the long run! Your friend wouldn't want her man to treat her how he is treating his wife. Some women will play that other woman role but no woman would want it to happen to them!
2006-11-02 10:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is married. If you're in favor of polygamy, hey it's your call but finding love should not result in sharing a man. Who puts themselves in a position where they're not first priority? You must
not love yourself enough if you're willing to be second in a mans heart every day. I would never settle for love if that's the case.
2006-11-02 10:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by kz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would settle for love in that matter. Because if that is the only man good enough for her whatever that word hang up mean it might not be so bad so give it a try.
2006-11-02 10:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by monicapitts28 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He would do the same thing to her if she did , so no she needs a real man, also she should think about telling his wife what he said to her, the lady has the right to know what she is married to.
2006-11-02 10:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋