Thought I would fall for one and slept with him (incredible sex) when the other came along. I dropped the first because of disagreement we had, then started dating the second guy. Then the first guy starts texting/emailing me wanting to see me again (I know for what :)) Now I am talking to them both (not sleeping with both) and I feel like an idiot because I want to be with both, without the other knowing (which is so wrong)! I know I cannot do that. I know I am being selfish because I want to hold on to both in case the other doesn't work out. The first guy is such a great lover(I mean really great), the second guy is not good in bed (suffers from ED), but he's a good man. How important is sex in the long run? I know this is messed up. I fantasize about the first lover, but I know I cannot have both of them.
2006-11-02 01:50:01 · 12 answers · asked by wwjd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be honest with them and yourself about what you want. Do want to be in a loveless relationship or do you want to be in the relationship where maybe you don't get along as well but have amazing sex. You really have to decide for yourself and then move on with either guy. Just don't string them along it will only lead to hurt down the road.
2006-11-02 01:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't want any of them. Maybe a combination of both. Sex is not the most important part of a relationship but it definitely is a big part of it. I say drop them both and find a guy whose nice and can satisfy you in bed. You can't simply have one without another in a longterm relationship.
2006-11-02 01:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say the first one.. great sex is alway important in the long run...just be friends with the second one if he agrees.. that way u still have both in your life....when things get boring between the two of u then u know that u can fall back on the sex...lol
2006-11-02 01:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Try to not contact both of them for a week and see who do you miss most. But between you and me, I'll choose the one that's good in bed unless he has a very nasty habit, like abusive or something like that.
2006-11-02 01:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you can't have both,but you can,just tell them both that you are undecided and you need time to choose,they'll whine,but they will go for it. and here's why. One has a sexual problem so he can't say a word for fear of rejection.the other likes the sex between the two of you and will continue on for his own pleasure.whom to choose?well,neither for the same reasons you have them.one can't satisfy you and that will be a problem and the other is just a booty call.have fun,tell them the truth and live.
2006-11-02 02:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my... I guess you have to ask yourself this question? What is it you want? Just a sexual relationship, with no strings? Or the ultimate, everything? Any man/woman can be taught to be a great lover... It's all in communication!
2006-11-02 01:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either one was truly the one, assuming that's what you're looking for, you wouldn't have either question. Be with neither, wait to find the most incredible match for you! Or have a threesome... lol.
2006-11-02 01:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the safe pick is the good man. But you girls will always choose the bad one
2006-11-02 01:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by T B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them all go the better would come back. sex is not important in relationship
2006-11-02 02:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by abenabox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋