Twice i thought i found the right guy; the ist lied about his status, his already married and the second cheated on me. Im terribly hurt but was able to move on, i want to get married yet i cant find myself trusting again the way i did...what can i do to overcome this feeling?
2006-11-02 01:49:35 · 11 answers · asked by gie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 52 y.o., family oriented, fairly level headed, somewhat intelligent, reasonable looking, tall, dark and I am still single. Though recently, I have met the woman of my dreams. That was a little hard to write. Cause it is hard to write. I have thought I found "the" person a few times too. Now that I look back I am glad it did not happen. What a nightmare the divorces would have been or the miserable life we could have led. I chose not to marry till now cause it did not feel right.
You have to believe the person is out there for you. You see others who "seem" happy then why not you? You will keep wondering.
You have to feel that the person is right for you. I have my own personal doubts but, when I look at my feelings for her. There is no questions.
The word "relationship" means "Re" to do something again and again, "Elation" means joy and exhiliration, and "Ship" means the state of. So Relationship means the state of being Elated or happy or exhilirated again and again. If you don't have that then you are in the relationship for the wrong reason. You find that and that could be your "soul mate" in life. I think.
I have very little doubt I will marry this woman. She has little doubt either. She is pretty amazing.
Good luck and think Happy thoughts.
2006-11-02 02:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cetainly always be on your guard against getting your heart broken but you should learn after a while has passed to give your trust again....if he has been a worthy applicant.
Sometimes it sucks being human...Cheer up, there are still some good guys out there.
2006-11-02 01:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering the fact which you're looking exterior your self incredibly of interior of. once you looking interior of your self, you develop right into a calmer and happier individual. you will then draw relationships to you. it incredibly is not any longer approximately trusting somebody else; it incredibly is trusting your self adequate to nicely known once you have met the splendid individual. have faith me you would know. yet you are able to desire to postpone the hunt for a on a similar time as till you get to nicely known your self extra helpful. circulate out and in basic terms "date". have exciting. do no longer enable your self to offer up too a lot of your self rapidly. take it sluggish to be extra selective, incredibly of believing that each and each guy which you meet is the single you opt to be with continually. artwork on your insecurities, permit circulate of luggage, etc. wish this helps.
2016-10-21 03:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by wiechmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to take one day at a time. I was cheated on but I trusted again. It takes time but you have to do it or the relationship will not last.
2006-11-02 01:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. It takes time to build trust....the right man will know that.
2006-11-02 01:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time. you have to understand that not all men cheat. there are some pretty descent guys out there you just have to be patient and wait for the right one to come along.
2006-11-02 01:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us have to just keep on trying. The right guy is out there for you. Keep on looking.
2006-11-02 01:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto to BigDog's response.
Additionally, you can spend time looking inside to see what attracts you to that type of man. Then, start to change those behaviors, beliefs, etc.
2006-11-02 01:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by Heath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you didnt want the right guy in your 20's when we were still nice
2006-11-02 01:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's out there sweetie, he's out there.....just be patient.
2006-11-02 01:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋