2006-11-02 01:35:47 · 15 answers · asked by Cool E 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
a new colleague joined my organization a few days back and i had a crush on her and was thinking of her day and night. even as i was thinking of a good line to talk etc i came to know she is married already.. what do i do? is it worth the effort of trying to befriend her...
2006-11-02 01:38:00 · update #1
Admire from a distance. This flame will cool off, and you won't have made a fool of yourself.
2006-11-02 01:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by lottyjoy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crushes are a very normal part of life. Of course we are humans and not animals. So you just have to keep this under control. Having a relationship with someone who is married is never a good idea. What goes around comes around. Why would you want another mans wife? So, just keep your desires and thoughts to yourself and maintain control over yourself. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-02 09:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a hard thing, as I am married and have a crush too. I am really disgusted over it and try not to let any thoughts in, I know it will pass and I think it's a test of some sort, to see if I will do what's right. Very tough.
2006-11-02 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by nada 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cool off and wait for the crush to subside, and then approach her as a friend. If you push yourself on her, and she is a happily married, stable woman, she will rebuff you and avoid you for good. Why take that chance? Whereas, if you cultivate a nonsexual friendship, she might actually find that she likes you. But do not push it beyond that unless she shows signs of reciprocation and makes it clear she is on her way OUT of a marriage. Be respectful, and don't expect anything beyond friendship from her.
Plus, there is the issue of sexual harassment that could endanger your career--think of that before you act on ANY workplace crush!
2006-11-02 09:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't go any further with this! You're going to Disrespect her husband!! Leave her alone, she is married for crying out loud. Anyway, you'll be looking at her one of these days and find a bad flaw in her and the fire will burn out. So look for that bad flaw now! So you won't hurt her husband or her or you!!
2006-11-02 11:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why men feel the need to try and hook up with married/involved women is beyond me. there are plenty of single women out there.
Empathy man, empathy. think about how you would like it if you were married and anwoman was making unwanted advances towards you....better yet, think about how you'd feel if you were married, and some **** co-worker of your wife's was hitting on her.
2006-11-02 09:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by johnny come - lately, esq. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask? Have some respect for her and her husband and leave her alone. Work with her strictly on a professonal basis.
If you were married, I doubt you would care much for some guy to be chasing after your wife at work.
2006-11-02 09:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
crush sees no reason or logic behind it. but knowing her details if u try to intrude on her life with more than friendship that would be very foolish on your part. she must be happy & secure in her relationship. even if she isn't its better to avoid anything but friendship on a platonic basis. am sure u will find lots more to give your attention to & vice versa.
2006-11-02 09:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone as she already has enough problem on hand. Because she is married.
2006-11-03 09:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by ECQC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the question is :"What do I do?
Do I befriend her?", answer simply is :"Lay off!"
It all depends on what is your intention!
Get honest, and think if you'd like it when this happens to you!
2006-11-03 06:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by thegentle Indian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋