My friend Venessa Just got out of a relationship of about 2 years...her boyfriend whom she was living with at the time said that he just wanted to be friends....he did not elaborate on this but they seemingly had the perfect relationship. She did everything for him and they never faught...so needless to say she is really not taking it well. Anyways I have convinced her all week not to call him...to wait for him to call her. She moved in with her friend for the time being but she is seriously considering calling him tommarow...To me...shouldnt she wait for him to call? I mean me being a guy know that pity might bring them back together but it won't hold them together...she is searching for answers and im afraid that calling him will only hurt her more. And no I do not like her like that.
2006-11-02 01:34:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, she needs to be strong and NOT CALL him!! I know it's difficult, but she needs to see the big picture here. It's very simple really what you chase will run away from you....so tell her to wait...even though it's hard.....and then when he does call (and you know he will...even if it's just wondering why she hasn't called him...lol) she needs to let him know that she's getting on with her life and that she's doing GREAT without him....going out with friends, having fun, not giving him a second thought...This will get his attention and make him think twice....it will make her more valuable in his eyes....It sounds to me like he had it really good and took it for granted....If there is anything real there....this is the way to save it. Sorry it's so lengthy...hope that helps! Best wishes!!
2006-11-02 01:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they broke up there must be something going on in which the boyfriend wanted out of the relationship. Either he wasn't happy and was faking it or something of that sort. I am a firm believer that if you break up, to not go out with that person again. Give her some time and just be there for her as a friend, just don't let her call him.
2006-11-02 01:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely NO on the calling back. She needs to get over him which is hard because she doesn't even know why he left her but calling back that would be begging. She sounds like a great girl and that would be under her level. If he wanted her he'd call.
2006-11-02 01:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by selene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your girl but, she will be hurting herself more if she keep on trying to reach out to this guy and he has moved on, No she should not call him but, as you are her friend I must tell you, that you should not stand in her way because when it comes to matters of the heart women do things that only they can explain, right now, she just needs you to be there for her, okay........she will come around soon I hope just do as you are doing and this is being her friend okay..........................................
2006-11-02 01:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say let her call just once, if the guy picks up, well great, they can talk, if he doesn't pick up, then never call him again.
Your gal needs a "closure", thats what she is aiming for now, so just let her call once and get it over with
2006-11-02 01:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a break from seeing, talking to him in anyway, that's how she will get over him. She needs to wait for him to call her.
2006-11-02 01:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your advice is sound..he broke up it's his call. i know she is in pain, but to call him would not be in her best interest.and that is what she needs to focus on, her best interest to move on and start life w/o him as a partner, only as a friend
2006-11-02 01:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by universalist49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST LEAVE IT UP TO HER.
LET HER DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO DO
2006-11-02 01:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋