Am I Too Aggressive?

Question

Lately it seems as if I am the one asking my boyfriend over to my house or asking if I can come out there before he even has a chance to ask me.When our schedules are the same we get together every single day,but I am thinking it is mostly because of me being inpatient thinking if I don't that it will be days before we see each other.He is always telling me he don't mind me asking so much and that I could just come out to his house any time I wanted even without asking.I just didn't know if men say this to sound nice and are really thinking "I wish she'd let me chase her more" or if they mean what they say.He also has three sisters and his mom that call him alot and sometimes when I am over at his house.I also pay attention to see how he reacts when they call and he acts like he don't get annoyed.The reason I get confused is because he never acts mad when I do ask and is always doing romantic things for me and takes me out all the time.Do I need to stop and let him chase me?

Answer 1

Well it doesn't seem to be a problem with him. Some men are like that and you have to take the initiative with them, having that many women in his family seems to have done him a world of good....like they trained him for you...LOL!!! If it ain't broke don't fix it.....Best wishes!!

Answer 2

That depends--maybe! How long have you been together? It could be that you have naturally fallen into these habits--your initiating most of the plans, asking him to get together, etc. If it feels natural to you both, it may not necessarily be a problem. But since you say that you may not see him for several days if you are not the one to ask, I wonder if he would miss your absence in that event or would he look forward to being alone. You know this guy better than anyone else. Besides hanging out with each other at your respective homes, does he make plans for you to go out together, buy tickets for events, etc. If not, I'd wonder if he was taking you for granted. Guys in general are not all that nice usually and would find some way to avoid you if he didn't want to see you. Guys usually don't like making an effort either--does he seem willing to put effort into the relationship and making sure you enjoy your time togther? It sounds like you are questioning alot of things about the relationship--I suggest you examine why that is. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Men like the challenge of the chase. Absolutely stop doing all of the asking. If he is really interested. He will chase you. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

If not it wasn't meant to be.

When women started doing the chasing the entire chemistry of male, female relationships got all messed up.

Now Women are paying for dates and supporting the men. WHAT IS THAT ALL ABOUT?

Men are the bread winners, door openers, the payers for dates, and our own personal sex slaves. Women run the home, organization, have and nurture the children, scheduling and planting the Ideas that get the men to do what you want. Men want to be in the conspicuously powerful position, it is the bulk of their self esteem.

We love them and care for them, BUT WE DO NOT SUPPORT THEM. When we got the idea we had to be primary bread winners (I'm definitely not saying that we can't do it, just why do we want to)
Things got fowled up.

Ladies, stand back, show interest but don't throw yourself at him. You have the treasure he wants. Work on being the brightest most appealing person you can be. They will come.

Answer 4

ok.... im not sure what the problem is......your situation sounds pretty good.......just relax and stop analyzing so much.....sounds like a cool dude.......

btw men ALWAYS mean what they say.....take it literally....

Answer 5

no It is okay I guess