we have been going out for a year and he has never mentioned having sex now he really wants to do it. the thing is im only16> please help
2006-11-02 00:50:23 · 26 answers · asked by Aaliyah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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the answer is no !
tell him if he would like to stay with you me must wait until you get married if he really loves you he will wait!
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2006-11-02 00:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You've been dating for a year right? Why can't he wait since he waited all that while. Besides you are too young to be dabbled into it. Remember, sex comes with a price. You will never have your virginity back, he won't stick around after a few times of fun, you are at risk of having AIDS, std's, unwanted pregnancies and you may end up an emotional wreck. Yes, sex can be enjoyable for a few minutes but the consequences far outweigh the pleasure.
Never let a guy force you into doing what you don't want. If he's being too much of a meathead, i think you should leave him because he doesn't want to respect you and he's putting sex before you which isn't cool.
2006-11-02 09:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't have sex w/ him...you're not ready. However, if you don't believe me...I read in 17 magazine that you shouldn't have sex until you feel you can talk about anything...protection for sex, if you get pregnet what to do, and feel completely okay to say if you don't like something. You're 16 and I have talked to lots of people and they wish they would have waited. You're at the point in your life where you want freedom and it's understandable to lean towards your boyfriend at this time. How old is your boyfriend? Be careful. Now isn't the time to be serious in your life. Love your boyfriend but don't marry him. Sex is something done out of love...true love...and for me that will be in my marriage. Read up on a few magazines and look online for quizzes and I think they'll help point you in the true direction.
2006-11-02 08:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was you I would wait. I was 16 when I lost it and trust me that is something that I wish I hadn't done. Trust me sex is not everything that people make it out to be. The first time is something that you can't get back. There is a lot that comes with it not only the fact that you could get pregnant. The bottom line is that if he cared about you then he wouldn't push you into this. You don't make people you care about do anything that they are unsure about.
2006-11-02 08:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't, back away from the relationship. No matter how much you think you love him. If you are not ready for a sexual relationship don't let him pressure you into. Before you have sex you have to be ready to face the consequences of your actions. Not only pregnancy but STD's; GC, Chlamydia, Herpes, Hepatitis B or C, HIV/AIDS.... did you want me to keep going. At sixteen most ppl do don't have the resources available to be able to handle a sexual relationship. Tell him to go take a cold shower and leave you alone. When/if it happens be prepared...no matter what do not let him enter you without a condom. I don't care what kind of lines he gives you. Nothing, including no man, is worth the risk of unprotected sex at your age.
2006-11-02 08:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by jbenishmlt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are toooo young believe me. U've got tons of time to have sex in the future. I really dont think u should start that..think about the consequences that comes along with it. Wait until you're ready. If you weren't in doubt you wouldnt have asked the question on Yahoo...
Take your time...do things that girls your age do....make a future for yourself by studying and making the right choices...
2006-11-05 18:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by ๑The Goddess๑ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a totally natural reaction to feel like your not ready to take things to that level. Just try not to be too shocked when you find out he's having sex with one of your friends that will screw him.....Not what you want to hear I'm sure, but true non the less!
2006-11-02 09:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his need may be great but that doesnt mean your ideas on when have to match,,if you really dont feel ready,,dont have sex because you wont feel good about it afterwards and what excuse will you use the next time he wants to have sex,,say 4 days after? once you start you cant just stop without reason and saying you are not ready wont do it for him as he knows you have had sex already,,it may be irrelevant to him how you actually feel,he may just feel he wants it and that is that.
2006-11-02 08:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only have sex when you feel ready hun. Dont be pressured! If your boyfriend does pressure you then you need to tell him to stop if your not ready. Just make sure hes the right guy before doing anything.
Good luck hun xx
2006-11-02 08:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by what you have said it's not the right time for you yet. You don't want to rush into it as whenyou feel ready it can be really special and beautiful. If he's worth it then he'll be willing to wait for you to be ready also. If you're both ready and it feels right you'll enjoy it so much more
2006-11-02 08:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by String of pearls 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were 60, you should never have sex because you are being pressured. It you do not want to, don't. If you do want to, do it safely. It is your body and your privacy and your choice. Search your heart, you'll find your own answer.
2006-11-02 08:55:36 · answer #11 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋