friendly chat and euchre games. In October it became more serious. We spent everyday/night on the phone, sending e-mails and messages. He was convinced that I was the woman he had been looking for his whole life. He told me he loved me, wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and asked me to be his girlfriend. He knew I had strong feelings, but I didn't recipricate the love and I said the gf/bf thing would have to wait until we met. He flew here this past week and we spent an amazing 5 days together. He said he still felt the same so we became bf/gf and would see each other on Thanksgiving. The morning he flew out we talked and he said he missed me already and couldn't wait to see me again. He was supposed to call me when his flight got in and he never did. The next night he sent me an e-mail about how his ex. gf was really sick and he needed to be with her because he still had feelings for her as she did him. He's an older man and I thought this time it was different.
2006-11-02 00:48:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Same thing happened to my son... He met a girl through internet, spent about $600 a month on phone calls, and finally went to meet her. They married, and 2 years later got divorced for similar reasons you mentioned.
2006-11-02 00:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by luosechi 駱士基 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? and how old is this guy?
If you are a minor then he can be (and should be) arrested and you need to call the police so he does not keep preying on other girls via the Internet.
I am sorry but you have fallen victim to an Internet sex predator. If I were you I would contact the authorities even if you are over the age of 18.
People like this guy have to be stopped.
Also I think you should be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. You really did not know this guy or his background.
Funny, how suddenly the ex is back in the picture after he has his way with you. The man is scum and he is preying on women/girls via the Internet.
If you have not been injured or received an STD (sexually transmitted disease) then you need to wise up and also try to keep your friends and family members from falling into the Internet sex predators trap.
There are millions of guys out there like this guy and they must be stopped.
2006-11-02 09:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he did enjoy being with you but that he did not have feelings as strong as he claimed he did.
Rather than tell you on the phone or in person, he used the email.
Long distance relationships are hard, but when it's a phone/email romance and you don't start out face to face, then we can build ideas of the other person that don't match the real person.
Don't take it personally. He just decided it was not the right relationship for him or he was wanting a little extra excitement in his life. It may even be a pattern. He meets on line/falls in love with love/can't handle the "real" person and then off to the next one.
You're really better off without him. So, get back in the dating scene.. But, do it in person, not on line next time.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 09:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sleep with him when you spent those 5 amazing days together? If so, then he already got what he wanted. If you didn't sleep with him then he just realized that he didn't feel the same after being with you in person. Either way, let it go and find someone who will feel the same way about you as you do about them, you deserve it!
2006-11-02 08:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by LittleRaysMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an interesting dilemma, I'd say that even though he loves you, you can't expect him to always revolve around you, I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but he's most likely the kind of man who feels that he needs to take care of those he loved as well as those who he loves.
2006-11-02 09:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by supernerd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that was a coward way out but that is how men do it. it sucks bad especially when feelings are involved. i think all he did was just use you for a good time. let him go and move on girl.
2006-11-02 08:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by terri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you just learned one of life most important lessons. People will do or say what ever they half to just to get what they want.
2006-11-02 08:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was afraid of something new and went back to his comfort zone
2006-11-02 08:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Takafushi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got what he wanted from you, so now he is looking for another sucker to fall for it.. never learn do they!!!
2006-11-02 08:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me you haven't slept with him, if you did, it would be pretty obvious what's going on.
2006-11-02 08:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋