We have been goin out for close to 7 months, but i was told he was playin me. I lost it and ditched him. later he talked to me and denied it just to clear his name not to get back togetha. I miss him and dont kno wat o do about my feelings. Dont tell me wat I shud have done tell me wat to do now
2006-11-02 00:40:59 · 28 answers · asked by nataka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a hobby
2006-11-02 00:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by CeeGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an important relationship life lesson for you. I hope you apologized to your former boyfriend and will treat future boyfriends with more respect. Respect runs both ways for guys and girls.
Gossip is cheap and your "friends" are sometimes jealous of you or want you guy.
Go to him. eat your pride, and ask him if there is any way to get back together. Tell him you deeply regret your mistake and you would like to continue the relationship. If he says yes then do everything you can to make him feel good about you and the relationship to earn back his trust.
Trust is a big issue in relationships. If you are a jealous person your are going to kill relationships with everyone; including people who are just satellites in your love life (friends) and family members.
If your former boyfriend does not want to get back with you then respect his wishes. Try to maintain a friendship with him and be nice to him. Do thoughtful things for him and always let him know you appreciate his friendship. Do not harass him or try to hang on him: keep to the rules of a clean relationship and be polite, grounded and strong if you blew it.
Who knows he may admire your strength and courage and it might just work out after all. If it does not work out on the romance level then you have a good friend for life.
2006-11-02 00:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do now..get over him and move on...learn the lesson that you don't just take someone else's word for something without discussing it with the person involved first...
Perhaps this will help teach you not to throw away something without making sure it truly has no value to you...because once something is tossed way, we cannot always get it back...
..and a quick English lesson it's "what" not 'wat' and "should" not "shud" and "together" not 'togetha' and "know" not 'kno'...don't want you to get in trouble with your teachers!
Good luck!
2006-11-02 00:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he convinced you that he was cheating on you "just to clear his name" and not to "clear the misunderstanding and get back together", I think (and I am sure a lot of people will agree) that you should't try and get back with him.
Because why didn't he convince you that he did'nt do anything wrong and work on building a relationship with you?
I know its tough, but with time you will be better. And I know it sucks but just hang in there....u will fall in love again and find somebody who doesnt walk away from you at the smallest sign of trouble.
2006-11-02 00:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by wrinkled soul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something new or fun for yourself like take a class, exercise, etc.... You'll have fun and feel better and be too busy to even think about him. If he's really sorry and serious, he'll do whatever it takes to get you back. But there are better fish in the sea....
2006-11-02 00:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sonyja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna get back with him. Then tell him. If you were meant to be with him you will be with him. If not..he was a nice run while you had him. Just keep the good memories and move on. I still think about my first true love and always will.
2006-11-02 00:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay strong on the reason u dumped him , u don't need all that drama, a player don't change,keep that in mind, u don't want that for the future, u want a guy who will love u for u not what u can do for him or give him, and u want a guy who will be loyal to u ,and most of all respect yourself , u deserve to be loved without being hurt, love is not suposed to hurt , god bless and good luck
2006-11-02 00:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is innocent (and you have proof) then you should take him asap. I dont think you should take him back if he's played you because trust me he's bound to do it again!
A leopard never changes its spots just its position!!
I know it seems hard to let go now but with time you'll see it gets easier
Good luck
2006-11-02 00:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all apologise and secondly be good friends, as in dont chuk him out of ya life for no reason at all. Be good friends and after a while you'll know whether or not you really wanna be wid him.
Give it some time i wud say
Regards
AJ
2006-11-02 00:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would apologize to him and tell him you have made a huge mistake and that you want to try things out again and see if things will work because you have strong feelings for him and you want him back
2006-11-02 00:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you like him so much still, why did you break up with him? Tell him you're sorry and tell him about your feelings. If he's a decent guy, give him one more chance. Then, if he pulls any funny business, give him theboot and find someone else who's worth your time.
2006-11-02 00:43:24 · answer #11 · answered by femaledrillsergeant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋