My girlfriend has an ex, and recently I found out by going through her emails, that she is still in contact with him, although she tells me, otherwise, I want to confront her, but at the same time, I don't want her to know I have gone through her emails and know that she is in touch with him. It has really effected my behaviour towards her, because where trust is concerned, its gone, how do I deal with it.
2006-11-02 00:35:13 · 11 answers · asked by Bobby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i were u just sit her down and talk to her about it tell her that u were getting weeired and u were to scared to say anything to her about it so u went though her emails and u found them. ask her why they are still talking and ask he to stop. but dont go though them again the second time is always worse. good luck
2006-11-02 00:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can she trust you? You are going through her emails. Why did you start? Seems you didn't trust her before you looked or you would not have looked at all. You can't have a relationship without trust it is one of the foundations relationships are built on. With that being said. You guys need to discuss why you don't trust her and why you looked through her emails. If you don't, your relationship does not have much chance of survival. God Bless!
2006-11-02 00:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having e mial contact with an ex doe NOT necessarily mean that there is hanky panky going on, but nevertheless a matter of concern. Hold off judgment for a while, and see what happens before making any decisions on how to handle this relationship.
2006-11-02 00:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut, start looking for other avenues to happiness and when the time is right and you're all set, let her know that you're leaving and the reason why. If she tries to do anything other than apologize profusely(like turn the tables and tell you that you had no right, blah, blah blah...) tell her, she needn't worry about it, because you're gone. If she apologizes and wants to work things out, find out whther it's because he didn't want to continue, or if she was just curious and didn't mean to be so stupid. Be strong, my friend! End of line...
2006-11-02 00:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even go through her emails in the first place, that's a terrible act.
The question should be asked is how can she trust you?
You have breach that trust and you lied to her by not telling her what you did.
This is terrible
2006-11-02 01:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bobby, if the trust is gone, and you dont think you can regain it the relationship is over either way. So if it will make you fel better confronting her, go for it. Worse case she will end the relationship, which it seems like is done anyway. I am sorry...good luck :)
2006-11-02 00:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her if it is more than just email chat. She has betrayed you by not telling you the truth and you have betrayrayed her by going into her email
2006-11-02 00:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to confront her! If you dont you will be in doubt all the time. If she lies about it then you know shes not the girl for you. A relationship has to have trust both ways if not then i dont think its worth it to be honest.
Good luck xx
2006-11-02 00:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never have gone through her emails. Fess up and tell her what you've done. Ask about her ex.
2006-11-02 00:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you, you'll learn to respect other people's privacy (even your girl friend's). Too bad you've been hurt already but you surely cant go to the mountains and expect not to find baboons there.
2006-11-02 00:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋