Does this mean anything?Girls advice..serious answers only please...?

Question

I had an argument with close female friend, where I asked her why she started acting strange towards (only me) me e.g. practically ignoring me for a week(where we chat every 2 days usually).She said it wasn't me, just other stuff on her mind. At the same time she thought I was dating a girl.Coincidence?

I told her that I'll give her some space and lose contact for awhile, to give her the opportunity to deal with whatever was bothering her. She replyed by saying: "if you want to,if thats what you want,if you're comfortable with that". I was quite surprised by her reaction(sseing we're close friends) was she trying to say something?? (have made up since)

We were meant to meet at the wkn, but that there wouldn't be any serious conversations and that we'd meet if "I still want to"?Is trying to say something with the comment "if you want to/still want to?" (even though I made no reference I wanted to)

Help...

We were m

Serious conversation=have had txt conversations, with me asking her waht she thinks about commitment/feelings/relationships etc

Why would she want to avoid these topics-made no reference it was about us

Answer 1

she may think of you as more than a friend as is worried that she may have lost you when you where dating someone.

She probably didn't speak to you when you where dating the other girl because she was jealous.

By saying you where going to give her space she may have took it to mean that she's not that important to you.

Answer 2

Oh you have got trouble. She has gone over the edge and fancies you. The problem is there is a rule out in the wide world and that is don't sleep with your mates and change friendship into a love interest because when it is over you have lost a partner and a good friend. All this "If you want to" stuff could be she is jealous of the attention you are giving another girl. You need to really seriously think about this stuff and I guess you both feel akward around each other and this "serious conversation" stuff,She is definately changing her feelings for you

Answer 3

Sounds like you're dealing with someone who isn't quite sure what she feels for you and/or may be emotionally immature. Know that it's difficult to have a male/female close relationship simply b/c emotional intimacy naturally leads to physical intimacy and both must have good restraint in order to keep things at the friendship level. Know that she LOVES your attention and doesn't want to lose that whether or not you are serious about each other. Selfish? Yes, but we all love attention and if you're dating someone else she's afraid she won't be getting as much from you. God bless you. ~Nise~

Answer 4

Honestly, i would think that she is a little jealous and feels a little left out. If you didn't talk to her for a week, and she thought u were dating a girl, I can see how she is a little upset, especially, if deep down she has the hots for her. You have to weigh your options, is your friendship important enough to just keep it inside you and let it pass? Or do you like her to and want to try to see if there's a relationship there. But be careful, because once there is the awkwardness between to close friends, it stays there.

Answer 5

Offhand, I would say she has some feelings for you and was disappointed that you had started seeing someone else and felt a little rejected. Just proceed as plans are made.If you want to see her at a certain time, make the plan and ignore the remark. Eventually she will come around or stop the friendship altoghther.

Answer 6

It does seem like she has stronger feelings towards you than friendship, but if you want to get to the bottom of everything, you both need to sit down and be honest with each other. One of the main reason for close friends or partners arguing is lack of communication, and it seems like this is the case ie she thought you were dating someone else. Just be honest with her and clear the air once and for all.. good luck

Answer 7

well i think she had developed feelings for u, and was just upset at the thought of u dating some else so staying away would make it better. meaning if she don't spend so much time with u then the feeling will go away. it also sounds like u like her too. if u do talk to her seriously, if she cries or stay silent, then let her know it's ok cause u feel the same way.

Answer 8

She probably does fancy you but also if she doesnt it could be because she feels she might lose your friendship, see if you had a new g/f she could be insecure of you having a girl bestfriend and try and keep you from it. Best thing is to just ask her if the problem is about you. She might be hinting so that you ask first.

Answer 9

sounds like she could be jealous and this is her way of dealing with it by trying to push you away or maybe trying to get a reaction out of you if theres any possiblity of something happening between yous, yous sound try to sit down face to face and have a serious talk about it see where yous both stand otherwise you friendship will be ruined never mind anything else

Answer 10

It sounds to me like your friend has feelings for you and maybe doesn't want you to know or isn't ready herself to admit to them. If she reacted like she did she is one of two things. 1. jealous and afraid to lose you as a friend. 2. likes you way more than she is willing to admit too.

You need to try to sit down and have a serious conversation with her, not text face to face, and try to see her reaction in front of you.

Try to make her feel comfortabel in talking to you about those issues. and if she wont then let it go.

you can't make someone talk. When she is ready, she will.
But maybe you could let her know that those things are what you are looking for and wish you could find someone to share them with, without telling her your meaning her.

Do you like her as more than a friend??? She may think you don't,
and scared to tell you.


Be compassionate, and understanding.

Good luck

Daphne