well, i was at my bf's and was having fun-no, not that kind of fun, but just watching a movie fun! so i tell my bf i love you and he says it back and then i asked him if he has loved anyone as much as me or more than me. ( we have been on and off for almost 15 months). and he did not answer me at first and then i asked him again and he said that im sort of pushing it. pushing what? i just wanted to know if he loved anybody as much as me at some point, but it turns out that he will not tell me as though he is scared for my reaction. second of all, he keeps on telling me how much he loves me, more than i will ever know. why does he say this? he knows i love him just as much and just as bad as he loves me. third: why wont he give me an answer to the question about him loving someone more than me or just as much as me? i dont care if he has loved someone more than me at some point but i would like to know. lastly, is he hiding anything or what is going on? is he scared or 2 secretive & y
2006-11-02 00:07:08 · 16 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those kind of questions will just get you into trouble. He's right, your pushing him to answer a question on something that is really not definable. I don't think I would like to be asked those questions. We love people differently when we love them, not more or less.
Just enjoy each others company.
2006-11-02 00:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everybody can kiss and tell or let out intimate details of their past relationships with their current love interest. To them, it seems you are being nosy or you want to open up old wounds that have since healed and they want to forget about.
You've been on and off so he might have had girls when you were off and doesn't want to talk about it and since you said that you don't care about the answer if he loves any other girl apart from you, then don't push him. He's told you he loves you so what else do you want. Let him be and enjoy your relationship while you still can. There are things that are better left unsaid. You pushing him too much will turn you into a nag and guys hate that.
2006-11-02 08:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be young and haven't really experienced an adult relationship. Here is a lesson for you to learn..... NEVER ASK QUESTIONS YOU KNOW YOU DON'T WANT AN ANSWER TO! By asking him this question you put him on the spot. By his silence YES he has loved someone other then you and he is trying to spare your feelings. He cares for you and doesn't want to hurt you. He also knows this is a trap if he answers yes you will ask more questions AND YOU WILL.
New lesson.... When looking for things you will find them. Trust him and be content with that, you'll be happier.
2006-11-02 08:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Honey Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that just maybe the girl he really loved hurt him bad??
He might just be trying to push away the hurt not trying to hide it from you. just be patient and maybe he will tell you. Just DONT push it obviously its a touchy subject for him.
Good Luck
2006-11-02 08:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep pushing this one question??? So what if he did love someone else before you came along. You are there now aren't you??? Just be happy. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 08:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are overthinking it all,,,he is a bloke hun,,,,just be glad he does say he loves you,,many dont and even they get married. stop being needy because that is what he will think,,that you always need reasurance of his feelings and believe me,,they get very tired,very quickly repeating themselves just to make you feel better.enjoy what you have while you have it,,its 15 months after all ,if he didnt like you he wouldnt have lasted this far.
2006-11-02 08:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does seem like hes hiding something, that if he were to tell u, u might leave him. and he doesnt want that to happen (again), since u mention that u've been on/ off for almost 15 months.
u need to seriously think abt this guy.
2006-11-02 08:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are complicated when it comes to expressing their feelings. most men think this whimpy. I would just go with the flow and not pressure him. there could be some unfinished issues from a previous relationship that he is still working out. as long as he treats you good I wouldnt sweat it.
2006-11-02 08:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah don't push the subject. he does loves you. he probley scared of losing u.
u guys are very much in love don't worry
have fun !
2006-11-02 08:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him stop pushing the subject. its none of your business. that is his past and should stay there unless he chooses to tell you. unless you want to loose him then keep it up.
2006-11-02 08:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋