got back together in april this year., i want him to move in with me but he says it is too soon. what do people think?
2006-11-01 23:11:55 · 17 answers · asked by Esther S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's come back to you for comfort while he finds someone else.
That is my opinion and it is valid before you go get nasty with the thumbs down.
2006-11-01 23:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't pester him to move back in. Yes you've been together before but you will have both changed since then and you need time to get used to the change.
I've been with my other half since feb 02 but we split aug 04 and didn't get back together until aug 05, a full year apart. We bought a house about 5months ago and we are now planning the wedding for 18months time. Dont rush into anything as everyone changes.
If you split up again, leave it for a long time before you think about getting back together because you need to know whether you can live with each others changes.
good luck!
2006-11-02 07:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by smudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have things been since you to back together?
If things seem different maybe one of you has changed.
I think he is still unsure about the whole situation.
Unfortunately I dont think pressuring him into moving in is going to help either.
I think the best advice is not to rush things for the time being set your self a time which you can confront the situation again in a couple of months unless he brings it up!
Good Luck
2006-11-02 07:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only just nov, so you've been back with him for 7 months.I'd agree with him and say it is too soon. Don;t be in such a rush for things to happen, the more you pressure him,the more you might be pushing him away.
2006-11-02 07:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a bit too soon i say.... there muz be some solid reasons behind the cancellation of the wedding and u guys splitting up... u guys have been moving very fast.. since u juz got back together, it's time for u n him to build a strong foundation for ur r/ship... until u r very sure of tat, then u may invite him to stay with u... rite now it's a bit risky... wat guarantee u have tat history won't repeat itself?
2006-11-02 07:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by SyaKiRa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it, just take it one step at a time. If he isn't ready then you could push him away. You could have just as much fun living apart - you can do your room up all sensual without him being there and dress up for him when he comes round, it will keep the romance alive.
2006-11-02 07:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lilac Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he sounds like he is making excuses, he doesn't sound ready for moving in, marriage or anything else and is probably only back with you til someone else catches his eye, I'm sorry but I think you should tell him its over and get on with finding someone who will value you more than he does and appreciate you and who will want to be with you.
2006-11-02 07:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon, why did you split up in the first place?? are you back together out of habit??
2006-11-02 07:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. You don't want to make the same mistakes as last time. I think it would be better to wait a while. See where your relationship is going this time around. You really sound like you want to make it work this time.
2006-11-02 07:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's right. If you moved that fast into getting married and then it fell apart he probably wants to make sure you're solid together this time.
2006-11-02 07:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by MJFrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋