in few years im going to finish college and i got plans for my future .. but the problem is im going to marry a girl from another country because me and my friend are starting a company together there im going to live there for few years my family are ok with it as long as i get married to a girl from here then go live where ever i want ,, my father says i dont care where u live and who do u marry to finish college and do whatever u want to do..but i think he dont mean it .. my mom says no i want u to get married of a girl who i choise for u ( but we all know thats not gonna happen) lol.. rest of my family members say u cant leave ur mom/dad alone for years if u wanna get married to a girl from another country then bring her here .. i really dont care about what they say its not that my wife wouldnt come here its just I DONT WANT TO COME HERE .. i dont like living in the same city with my parents (alots of reasons)
2006-11-01 22:09:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are very young and marriage for you is hopefully a long ways off. After college go spread your wings. Learn who you are and what you are good at. Once you know these things you will be able to pick a young woman with whom to share your life. You will be ready to be a fantastic husband and a wonderful father. If after you learn about yourself you do not want to live in the same city as your parents than don't. It will be your choice. Many things will change over the next few years be ready for the good things that will happen in your life.
2006-11-01 22:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parent interfere in our life more than what they should do…specially mothers….my mom still treats me like the very little baby she had nursed even when I reached 35 years of old !!
I believe that you should not retreat your decision for living wherever you like and you think its good for your future. As one day they will understand that it is only a matter of time.
But I must till that they will never ever forget or forgive that you married without there consent. And that …..will make you live your rest of live like hill
My advise is that you insist on telling them that you are leaving the city no matter what …but in same time promise them that you will reconsider the marriage issue until your graduation.
Wish you all the best.
2006-11-01 22:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by loody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is very important. But if you are deeply in love with each other - she is important too.
Your feeling of love must not be based on sex appeal alone as this wears out sooner than you think. It must be complete feelings which bring you together. You must know her fully (!) and also her family well. If your feeling is strong for her do as you say - marry her and live in a different country, leaving your family. But, at no point leave your family emotionally.
Keep talking to them on phone, write letters etc. and make trips to your home regularly and hope your family accepts your life as it is.
2006-11-01 22:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by nodoublespeak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a lot of plans for someone who isnt even married yet,,you seem to be a tad ahead of yourself,,these decisions should be made between you and your wife,,WHEN YOU GET ONE!!! you cannot map out a life for a week yet alone years as you have absolutely no idea who you are going to marry or even if you will get married,,you will also have her views on where you live,,you haven't even met her yet.take steps as the present themselves,,live for now,,now and work on the rest as it comes up,,you know you want college so do it,irrespective of 'the wife',until you do marry do things and make decisions for you,not someone you have no idea the opinions of.good luck
2006-11-01 22:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a Greek man who had lived in America for 17 years. We have lived in Greece for 15 years. It is not easy but I love him and want to be with him . I say choose your wife and your life!
2006-11-01 22:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by tx_or_gr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your entire future happiness depends on the decision you make now. You should definitely choose your life partner by yourself and wait till you find true love. It's such a wonderful thing to experience. I believe in respect for parents but I don't think they should choose your future partner. That's your own personal decision. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 22:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ur life and even if u like ur parents they cant decide where u live. moreover you dont even like living in the same city with them!!!
Be a real man, marry who U want and live where u want. Nobody will die if u make so!
2006-11-02 01:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man gets married his wife becomes his family. It is up to you to take the lead and be the man you want to be not your parents shadow.
2006-11-01 22:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live a life that makes you happy, but also remember who brought you up to be who you are. In some way, you have some form of duties towards your parents.
2006-11-01 22:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, and you need to do what makes you happy. If that means leaving your family behind, so be it. Remember that your wife, once you marry, will BE your family.....
2006-11-02 01:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Heath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋