Why do Muslim womenat scream, shout, wail and cry at the top of their lungs at Islamic funerals but are made?

Question

....to be silent every other moment in their lives. Why is it the only emotion Muslim women are allowed to publically show is hysterical grief?

Shouting, wailing and sobbing at a funeral is not a bad thing - it just seems at odds with islamic faith especially the female gender role in Islam of being servile. On CNN after a jihadist has blown themselves up you see veiled Muslim women draped in black SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF THEIR LUNGS. And most of you here who answer this question said "No, we don't do that! It is against Islam. It is 'haram'."

Answer 1

Actually screaming and wailing at a funeral is actually 'haram' (forbidden) in Islam. I think this is more common in Arab nations... Muslim women in Malaysia or Indonesia don't behave this way at funerals.

And by the way, of course Muslim women are allowed to show emotions. Islam doesn't ask women to be silent at all, if Muslim women are being silenced it is for sure a man-made rule.

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I did not say Muslim women don't do it at all.. Many people here have answered that it is more of a cultural thing. People get religion and culture mixed up all the time. Since you're not a Muslim, why should you criticize the way they choose to grief?

Answer 2

how is it everyone here is pretending to not know what shes talking about, just watch the news, every time there is a bombing or attack in the middle east they always find a of group screaming and at the top of their lungs while they stare into the camera. No you dont really see this in other cultures, they tend to be more stoic even in the west were people are encourage to share their feeling a little to much.

Answer 3

Ashley, God commanded us (Muslims) to control our emotions during the death of loved ones or in funerals. Of course as human beings we can break down from the sorrow; however, screaming and wailing is totally forbidden by Islam. God asks us to be patient and controlled.

But what you see on the TV is part of the Arab culture which is still criticized by civilized Arabs. At most cases, those women who scream and do such drama tend to belong to lower classes of the societies they belong to. In contrast, women of upper classes are more reserved and express their grief in quieter ways.

Answer 4

Wailing Cry

Answer 5

I really don't know where you get your information from..but we are not ..kept quiet... and have you ever seen some people here in the USA show grief at a funeral?? crying..screaming?? i have.. so why are you going to direct this question to Muslims??

Answer 6

oh common like non Muslim women does not do that.

do not confuse yourself with culture and religion even though both seem to be interconnected. i have seen other Muslim women being silent in funerals while some scream and shout at their favorite singer.

in fact in Islam, our prophet Muhammad S.A.W said that it is prohibited to scream and cry hysterically during funerals. but you are allow to cry and mourn.

Answer 7

r u a muslim woman who has been screeming shouting 'wailing n crying at the top of ur lungs at funeral s but made to b silent otherwise?doesnt seem so from ur pic.---i think its all bcoz of ur wrong posture as shown in the avator.-----plz bro stand correcrtly.-it may help u thinking in the right direction

Answer 8

It is prohibited in Islam to express grief by wailing, shrieking, beating the chest or cheeks, tearing hair or clothes, or saying phrases that makes a Muslim lose faith.


Um Atiyyah reports : " The Messenger of Allah made us pledge that we will not wail over the dead"(Bukhari & Muslim). {see page 8,9}.

Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said : " I detest a woman who cries out very loudly, or shaves her hair, or tears her clothes when a beloved one dies "(Bukhari & Muslim).

She may cry, as the Prophet did when his son died. He said :" The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord" (Bukhari).

Answer 9

the way of mourning is cultural .... and who told you we're quiet the rest of the day?

my family would find it hysterical to think of me and my closest friends as quiet. we're not loud or rude but we definitely make ourselves heard :)

don't buy into misconceptions and generalizations, women are very significant in Islam

the first convert to Islam was Khadija, a woman
the first person to ever sacrifice their life for Islam was Sumayyah, a woman

along with a great number of significant women in Islamic history... contact me if you'd like to know more

peace and blessings to all

Answer 10

LOL, this muslim woman wears her heart on her sleeve. You are talking about in normal situations, not in times of distress. If ou see me with my children, you will see playing and laughing. You will see affection. Maybe you just don't see enough muslim women or pay much attention. Or maybe they are shopping and there is nothing to be emotional about.