Anyway i think this is a phase because recently i have become more open and willing to talk to girls with whom i have never met and they seem to react nicely to it :) Anyway i went to a club the other day and there was this girl sitting next to me. I leaned over and said "hi, how are you" because she was sitting by herself and looked lonely. she looked at me, gave me a dirty look and turned the opposite way and walked off. The girl was not overly attractive and i felt like **** for the rest of the night. My question is, what was her problem? Did i do something wrong? Should i refrain from trying to communicate with the opposite sex?
2006-11-01 21:47:27 · 14 answers · asked by Hard Doodle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People who are shy are usually shy for a reason. You know that rejection is by far the most likely outcome if you were to ask women out.
Shyness is nature's way of stopping a guy from making stupid mistakes like the one you did in the club.
You'll most likely be alone either way, so you need to decide is it worth the prospect of many many rejections on the slim chance that somewhere along the line there is a woman desperate enough to not only have any interest in the first place but to want any sort of a relationship?
2006-11-01 21:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're taking it too seriously. I did the same thing when I was young. Most of the girls you approach are not going to be interested. That's something you need to get used to. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Be polite, be friendly, and just be yourself. Approach as many girls as you have time to. This will do two things. First, you will realize it's no big deal. Second, some of these girls will not blow you off. Even if you have to get rejected by 1000 girls, maybe the 10001st girl will say OK. The more you force yourself to talk to girls even though you are nervous the easier it will get the next time. Practice makes perfect. Now get out there and make an a s s of yourself like the rest of us. It's no big deal.
2006-11-02 05:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some girls might take this as an overt pick up line but you know it's one of the most polite I've heard. Maybe she wasn't interested, or in a bad mood, maybe she wasn't a very nice person etc. Don't let it put you off.
It's normal for everyone to get knock backs...it really is...even the most gorgeous looking people get knocked back.
The thing is not to take it too personally. I think it's great you said what you said to her....'cos let's face it, if you don't have a go then you'll never know.
So take your new found confidence and it won't be long before you get a good result!
Best wishes.
2006-11-02 05:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm, welcome to the real world babe, if you don't develop a backbone quick smart people will walk all over you...i know what it is like to be a shy person...i used to be so shy, and i mean painfully shy in my younger days...guys would talk to me and i was so shy i feel i lost out many a times because of it...but with time you realize how cruel people in the world can be, and realize that being shy doesn't cut it...you need to work on yourself to build more confidence, and with time you will let go of the shyness, and become a whole new person. Oh yeah and for the record, i believe this girl just saw you as another smooth talker trying to get into her knickers, work on yourself and tact.
2006-11-02 06:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We girls generaly like being talked to. Their are sometimes when we whant to be alone. If you find a girl somewere that you like, Say something. That is a good way to get started. Pick up lines are no good. And if you put the toliet seat down then extra points! But don't metion it.
2006-11-02 05:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes stop trying that way you will be alone for the rest of your life. It's not this girl had other things going on in day that had nothing to do with you
2006-11-02 05:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she was in a bad mood you only said hello to her & there is nothing wrong with that
try taking up dancing you may meet someone there.
or join a club where there are women or church even
just don't give up & get upset over that girl
good luck i wish you well
2006-11-02 06:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women don't like men who show their admiration so fast. They always think it must be smthn bad the guys want it from them. Try first to know her friends then they might help you approach her without any dirty looks....
2006-11-02 05:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by purestar777 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no that wasn't your fault she was probably just in a foul mood anyways get over your shyness and start having some fun, you are going to run across some mean and nasty people and that is just the way it is, ignore them and move on
2006-11-02 05:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she was too drunk and she must of had sommin on her mind
if ya need advice add richardjames007@cooldude.co.uk
or join www.persons.com <<< a good site to meet girls
i got about 61 of em as my freinds
2006-11-02 05:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋