other half can go with out sex for months why? And no silly comments please and yes she has a vibrator?

Question

She says she preferes me and she hates condoms

she is my wife and yes she never is late home from work and spends most of her time with me so it's nothing to do with playing the field

Answer 1

maybe she finds everyday life a little humdrum...try and woo her a bit...surprise her, even if its something silly just take her out of the normal routine day to day...most women become very stagnant and bored when life throws nothing exciting or challenging at them, so even if you are together and you are attentive if its the same attention as youve always given or if she goes through the same kinda routine most days,it gets boring...do something you would never do...open your wallet buy loads of roses...take the day off...spend your day off scattering rose petals everywhere...if you have kids farm them out...get some nice food in ..take her out somewhere in the day and be saucy with her...play fantasy sometimes...get her to meet you out and act like you just met...i dunno theres loads of ways but i think shes probably just a bit stagnant because she's bored with everyday stuff...she needs other stimulation...hope this helps, good luck ;0)

p.s dont even think about throwing away her vibe,lol...she wont speak to you again,lol...think of ways instead that you can both get pleasure from her having one...;0)

Answer 2

So be faithful and don't use the rubbers. It is a huge commitment and needs some soul searching can you trust her?
But if it is the condoms that bother her wellll... But I think the real problem here is the vibe. The condoms are just an excuse.
The vibe does not help. Take it and throw it in the trash. Tell her if you are not good enough for her than she can have a relationship with her vibe. Vibes should only be used if your man is not around to love you or while your man is loving you.
Most woman are content to have one or two orgasms on the day that they need it and if she plays with her vibe in the afternoon and you come home at night forget it she does not need it when she has so effectively satisfied herself. She'll go to bed happy as pie and you'll wonder why she's not interested.

Answer 3

Some girls are like that.
Myself and apparantly my sister have really high sex drives and can't go much more than one week without attacking our boyfriends (must be a hereditary thing!).
I have a couple of friends who are like your lass though. When I have asked them why, one says her sex drive has gone down hill since she started taking the pill and put on weight. You haven't said if your lass is on the pill or not so this could be of some help to you.
My other friend needs a bit of romance to get her going, without a that her fella lucks out. Have you tried doing things for your lass to get her in the mood? E.g, candles, romantic massage, cook her a meal, etc.
It could be that maybe the vibrator hits her spot (please don't take that as a personal attack, it is the case for a lot of women), you could ask her and if this is the case, maybe you could use it during sex to give her that little bit more pleasure.
Hope this all helps!

Answer 4

Some women do have a low sex drive. There is nothing unusual in your wife. However, get her to have her hormones and thyroid tested. Sometimes, when our hormones are out of kilt (can be many reasons) we have ziltch sex drive, and this can go on for years, cos u don't realise you have the problem. You are a very understanding hubby by the way! Or, it could be work related stress. Either way, the tests will then rule out the first 2 (go to your local GP - all it takes is a blood test) and then you can work on the stress issues. Believe me, once she is on the right hormone / stress medication, you will be on the site again asking how to get her off you! Good luck.

Answer 5

I had the same proplem with an ex of mine, I thought it very odd and queried it to see if it was me or if there was a problem. I was just told they could go months without it and it wasn't important to them.

Needless to say I think a sexual relationship is an important part of a relationship. That's probably why it didn't work out.

Anyway, try discussing it a bit more with her to see if there's a problem there. I've heard it said that stress, the job and other factors can affect the sex drive. Are any of these affecting her?

Answer 6

Well I'm guessing you always wear a condom and you stated that she hates that, so that could be the reason.
Women can go without longer than men because we aren't as easily stimulated visually and we don't have a big hard on to look at all the time.

Answer 7

does she smoke, like alchohol or is she just run ragged? there are lots of things that can lower a womans labido! or maybe she is bored with the bedroom department! try introducing new ideas such as getting busy in places that you wouldn't normally, sex isn't always about 4 walls and a bed! not having a pop at you it's just things become mundane for a lot of women good luck and keep your pecker up!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Vibrators desensitize so it takes a lot longer with you than with the machine and she knows it. So bing bang she is done and can think about something else besides finding the time it takes to do you. Just because she says she prefers you does not mean she is not getting BIG satisfaction fast.

Answer 9

Talk to her about not using condoms then and if it doesn't work for her ask her about her sex life prior..has she always had little or no sex in other relationships? If it's just you then she probably doesn't find the spark there...move on.

Answer 10

I think the longer we woman go without sex the easier it is and you end up not being bothered about it. Having it regularly means you want it regularly, that's how it goes for me anyway! Good luck.