how come I seem to attract people into my private life who have mental problems?????
2006-11-01 21:13:58 · 7 answers · asked by genieejj 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
probably because you like to help people and are a caring person it could be part of a Savior complex which is very easy to do in your profession however you have to be carefull you also need time for yourself and do things that are not related with your job. you can become burned out easily with your job, and if you take it home, in time it can be quite hard for your personal life u have to remember you are important too you ask "how come i seem to attract these people" well maybe because these people like to talk about their problems a lot, and then they meet you and go "WOW" finally i meet someone who understands me. i am sure you still will listen to them but keep it simple, just point them in the right direction don"t become their therapist , in time it will be too hard for you don't forget about yourself, your mental health is important also i know i was a mental health professional for thirty years, and some times some of the people i helped in my personal life, can resent my interaction with me because after a while, they see me as a therapist, not a friend hope this helps you take care
2006-11-01 23:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by zeek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you do that is because you do all you can to relate to them. By doing this, you believe that the closer the connection you can make with them, the better chance you have of helping them. I think it would probably be best for you to approach each person as something that you are dealing with here and now physically. Try to separate job and home. You can still care with all you have and not let the desire/need to help burden you outside of work. Unfortunately, you can not save everyone. I really hope this helps. Be careful. Sometimes when you are searching for only the good in people, you can learn a lesson the hard way.
2006-11-02 05:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by wizardburg28 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are two reasons it could happen. 1. You are not judgmental or predjudiced again people with mental disorders. This probably comes across in your personality, so these people know you will not reject them. 2. Since you are working in mental health, you probably already know how widely spread and common these problems are. Many the percentage of people suffering from mental disorders is larger than we think.
2006-11-02 05:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ME TOO. It sounds just like me. I am like a "I have a problem to tell you" magnet. What is it about us that makes people do that?
No matter where my husband and I go, if I strike up a conversation with someone , not long into the conversation, they are asking me for advice. Its crazy. I don't understand it myself either and probably never will. Now when they do it, I just change the subject, its the only way to avoid being the "Ann Landers"
Good luck
2006-11-02 09:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kay M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you give off a rescuer vibe...i don't mean this in a harsh way. do your friends and family members seek you out for advice and problem solving? if so, you may be a rescuer without realizing it. find a way to set realistic boundaries outside of your job. ;) or you'll become a 24 hr "therapist."
2006-11-02 05:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they're not the ones with mental problems.
2006-11-02 05:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Politia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you're a nice person that likes to take care of damaged goods
2006-11-02 05:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋