My husbamd of 6 years got really depressed and started using methamphetamines. He started freaking out and accusing me of cheating on him and made himself believe that small things like the way I looked at his friends meant I was cheating on him. He wouldnt believe me that it was the drugs making him think that, I seriously never even thought about cheating on him. We have a two year old son together an we currently arent together. He has been off the drug for almost 7 months now. But he used it for 2 years straight. Will he eve see the truth or will he still believe this and have the same way of thinking the drug made him have while he was on it? I dont want to hear any answers like you can do better or he's a peice of crap. I want to know what this drug can do to a persons way of thinking and memory when they arent on it anymore.
2006-11-01 20:19:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think he may get to the point where he will ACCEPT the fact that you were not even thinking of cheating on him. He will probably never get where he actually sees the truth because his memories and his perception of that time were skewed by his drug usage.
It is similar to remembering things from when you were a very young child. No matter how old we get, when we remember back, our memories registered in that very young mind. We may realize (as an adult) that this could not have really been the way it happened, but we will never remember it any differently. People who were on drugs will still "remember" things as perceived through that drug hazed mind.
I think you can both get past this though. He will come to realize that he must have been wrong.
No one should tell you that you can do better. None of us can do better than to be with the person we love. I saw that a few people mentioned gong to NA, etc. That may work, but what he probably really needs to make sure the depression is cured or under control.
Good luck to you both.
2006-11-01 21:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months off the drug is good, 7 years is even better. When he started using drugs he was depressed, has the cause for the depression been determined yet? Has something been done about it?
I have worked with addicts in rehab and they all say the same....you should be 'clean' for 7 years to really begin to be free from the drugs, even then, a slide back is always very close by.
He should be in therapy, not to get him physically off the drug ( he already is) but to get him mentally off the drug, this can take years, he will have to readjust his thinking entirely. he will have to face the things he blotted out with the drug and he will have to get to know himself all over again. This can be a very painful process. He will eventually find out how many people he has hurt but that the one he has hurt the most is himself.
You have not cheated on him, therefore you have not hurt him. he is convinced you did cheat, therefore he is really hurting himself by holding on to the thought of you cheating. Once he is mentally free of the drug he will hopefully begin to let go of that idea.
Good luck, I hope I was able to help.
2006-11-02 04:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Courage 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meth is a very seductive mistress. I was in it's clutches for a few months back in 1984, and the symptoms you write about, particularly the impaired reasoning and paranoid thoughts are very familiar. That sort of thing comes with the territory.
I cannot speak with authority as to how you ex's reasoning and demeanor have changed since he cleaned up his act, but in my case, I bounced back to my original personality, albeit somewhat wiser in the ways of crystal meth, and deeply cognizant of the negative impact it had on my life. My best guess is that something akin to this has occurred with your ex. If he was jealous and paranoid before his involvement with meth, he will continue to be. If he was a sweetie pie before, the chances are good he will be now.
I was fortunate. I have a strong enough will and sufficient intuition to remain clean and sober. It is not a daily struggle anymore, and I have zero desire to go back to the bad old days. Not all people have that resource to draw upon, and as I said before, meth is a seductive mistress. Keep an eye on things, and take the steps necessary to make sure that your ex's recovery remains intact. Urge him to attend NA meetings if necessary....I have seen this be a big help in other people's lives.
Good luck kiddo. Give him a chance, but remain vigilant!!
2006-11-02 04:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by yellowcab208 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get counseling and attend meetings, many meetings of Narcotics Anonymous. He might not be off them. If he is not remorseful for his actions while on the drug that does not sound good. Of course I do not know if he is or not but he should be watched. You need help too. Go to alanon.
2006-11-02 04:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by FrogDog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done a very wise thing to ask a question here!....Show your hubby to a doctor if possible, and there are only THREE things to make him as he was before:
PLU
Patience
Love and
Understanding
2006-11-02 04:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was told once a time that there is kind of sergery(operation) which can drive out of the thinking and memory absolutely ..i am not sure where ..hhmm
2006-11-02 04:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by odysseyhellas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't really off it yet, if he is still tweaking,
2006-11-03 04:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he won't
2006-11-02 04:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by furshluginer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋