2006-11-01 20:15:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't be so desperate--learn self-confidence :)
2006-11-01 20:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard answer to hear... but the main thing to do is wait. It takes time!
I didn't date through most of high school. I never got asked out- not even to school dances. I had no idea why this was the case. I mean, I may not be hot but I'm not ugly either, I had straight A's, I thought of myself (and my friends thought of me) as a considerate, friendly person... so why couldn't I get a guy?
Finally, I asked a close friend why on earth nobody wanted to ask me out. He told me that I had this aura of "don't pester me" about me, and that although there were guys who wanted to ask me, they were all scared to. I was completely shocked-- I wasn't even aware I was doing it! (Ironically, my story turned out well. He's now my boyfriend, after being scared to ask me out, and after being a good enough friend to tell me what I was doing wrong!)
My suggestion: ask a trusted, close friend if they know of anything that might be driving guys off. If they say there is, don't be offended at that, but try to work on fixing that flaw. If they say they don't know of anything, don't immediately assume it's hopeless. Keep a close eye on yourself to see if you can spot anything, but otherwise just hang in there. Don't change who you are to get a date, because anything based on deceit or falsehood can't last anyway. It's much better to wait longer and then find someone who's truly right for you. Don't get discouraged or think you're worthless. You will find someone!
"You can't hurry love... no, you'll just have to wait... love don't come easy... it's a game of give and take..."
2006-11-01 20:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 4 ways to attract a guy: personality, looks, intelligence, and soul.
Are you kind/nice? If you are a nice girl, guys will notice it eventually. The right guy will be attracted to nice girls.
Are you smart? You know if you are. If you are, you may have to wait until you are older, but guys will eventually be attracted to you if you are intelligent.
Are you cool/fun? Try to be easy going, relaxed, and fun. Guys will notice if you are the type of girl that goes with the flow and likes to have a good time.
Are you beautiful? The only proven way to get guys right away is to look beautiful. Physical beauty comes in a many different forms, so dress/look like the girl that would attract the type of guy you are looking for. If you want to date a bad boy, dress like a slut. If you are looking for a good man, wear modest clothes and makeup.
With this, it takes patience to wait for the right guy to notice you. It also takes confidence. You are beautiful, kind, smart, and cool. Keep that in mind, and guys will find out. Good luck.
2006-11-01 20:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jake S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. it is scientifically proven that in the world of relationships, people want what they can't have. if you appear to be despirate for attention it will only push people away. if you didn't give a s*** what people thought, they will want to know why you are like that! try being mean to guys and make it seem like they couldn't have you if they were the last guys on earth.
2006-11-01 20:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does all and sundry think of you % a boyfriend? forget approximately it. boys incredibly are not that great a deal. you come across that out once you do start to get observed, then, you come across out on an identical time that any guy that is going to observe you immediately in a sexual way, then come hit on you with some cheesy line which you are going to discover good by, is relatively pathetic.
2016-11-26 23:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be confident and be yourself, the right guy will notice you for you instead of the wrong ones for somethting you are not.
2006-11-01 20:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jose G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my babes , u will meet someone one day . Juss be patient ..the is someone 4 u out there . Gud Luck
2006-11-01 20:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of those guys are right for you then. when the right one comes along all you have to do is be yourself and he'll notice you.
2006-11-01 20:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by jungle cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your sights a little lower, and put out xx
2006-11-01 20:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry. just be patient and soon when you least expect it the guy will come to you. trust me thats how it was with me.
2006-11-01 20:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋