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Hey I have this guyfriend that I've had a crush on for years and I've decided to tell him that I like him sometime soon... however.. the fact that we've been friends for a long time makes me feel even more scared of rejection and plus he's shy and passive.. How can I tell him without freaking him out?

2006-11-01 18:46:43 · 10 answers · asked by done_with_luv 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I know you may not like rejection, but that is apart of life. Yes i know this particular guy you like but telling him helps you embrace rejection and move forward. On the other hand, you also said he was shy. His shyness is most likely a direct link to him liking you as opposed to you liking him. In other words, his shyness can be to your advantage because by you admitting you have intrest in him it may allow him to open up. Even if he doesnt like you, he will open up more if he knows how you feel about him. What you dont want to do is not tell him because then it will only eat you up inside.

2006-11-01 18:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0 0

Tell him he's such a great friend and then ask him to have lunch with you one day. Meet you at a certain place, and even pick up the tab! At that time, you can ask if maybe he'd like to join you one night on the town. You'll know more when you get him to loosen up. I've always loved shy guys.

2006-11-01 18:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0 0

Just come clean. That's what I did with my bestfriend. But he said no, because he didn't ever want to loose my friendship. I was hurt a little, but understood. He has been my friend ever since. Still a good outcome. In the end, I believe it would of hurt our friendship because he just was not the right fella for me. Not the right type.

You just have to tell him how you feel. He is not made of glass, just a bit shy. No worries. go for it.

By the way, 12 yrs later, I am married to another fella that was his friend and I love him dearly and am still good friends with the first fella.

2006-11-01 18:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Send him a letter! Let him digest it, be kind, add what you feel you most like about him and be humble. Offer him the ability to just leave things be without a word otherwise. If he's interested, he'll make a move...

This way you avoid a sticky confrontation. Sor those who are shy, nervousness may interfere with their ability to digest what you're saying. It may be so akward for him he will not think clearly...

2006-11-01 18:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0 0

The best way to love someone is to truly love them and truly care about their well being.Its easily seen and appreciated when you really love someone you take extra care for their feelings and doing anything that might hurt them.Honesty in a diplomatic but honest way is the best policy.Never play with anyones feelings for no matter however shy people have feelings and can get hurt if approached or treated in a rude manner.Generally shy people require greater sensitivity and care,Realize if you truly love that person let them know about it and be honest about a committed relationship to the person and not to play around or fool around.

2006-11-01 18:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well... I'm a very shy guy myself, speaking to woman is something I have an incredibly hard time doing. I will be friends with a lady that I love, just because I find it impossible to tell her how I feel. And it drives me nuts, Take it from this shy guy, if you say something to him, he will be eternally grateful. And if he is your friend, he will understand the feelings you have for him, and trust me, you'll be shocked when he reveals his true feelings about you.

2006-11-01 18:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0 0

First of all, if he is shy, you don't want to embarrass him. So, get him alone, and just see what happens. One of my very best friends used to play the guitar for me and sing to me. Inside I knew I liked him, but was scared and let him go. Just see what happens. If you want to confront him, don't do it in front of a crowd. If you think he will reject you, just be prepared for it and build yourself up.

2006-11-01 18:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

chick you and i have something in common... there is a guy i've had a huge sub-conscious crush on and i can't seem 2 get ova it... i have a bigger problem tho... he's my bro's best friend :( welll alll i can advise is that you tell him, i've been hesitating for some time now but you kno wat i've eithere gotta do something about it or get ova it.... same goes 4 you... unless he sends you the signals that he's goin 4 u soon than u must nmake move towards him or away frm him.... hope i've helped a bit??? good luck...

2006-11-01 19:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Megzie 1 · 0 0

just take it slowly.. u know if you are really friends.. i doubt if he wouldnt notice it.. just do the normal thing.. show him his especial
and the moment you tell him just tell him reasons. u been here all along. beside me. you were always there when i need someone.... and go on

2006-11-01 18:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0 0

shy guy cant be told in the face. i was shy guy before. so i know. give him a love letter.

2006-11-01 18:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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